@matildagirl I am so sorry to hear about what she is going through - thinking of her and sending healing strength for all
@matildagirl Lifting all in prayers for the Highest Good for All Concerned and sending much Light and Love and healing Energy .
@matildagirl Sending angels to your sister's side and to you too, to help you through this. I know how much we can love our sister. I have one too. It's like no other love. So I especially feel your distress and am glad you reached out to us.
@jeanne-mayell thank you Jeanne, she is the last sister I have left. My 2 other sisters and an older brother have died. They were in their mid 70’s so not really old but good old lung cancer did it’s thing. Hate cigarettes. I was the only non smoker in my family. They gave up smoking many years before but it still had done the damage. Mum died from lung cancer as well but in her case she gave it up 3weeks before she died. Had decided she had now had enough.
Regards to all.
Hi Everyone,
I thought I’d reach out because I’ve been really struggling with anxiety/panic attacks and burnout. I gave birth to my second child on 12/31 and I’ve been dealing with pretty severe postpartum depression/anxiety. I am being treated for it but it’s not enough. I worry constantly about the baby- he recently stopped nursing and I have to pump enough milk for him instead. I supplement with formula and have thought of switching to just formula but the shortage means I can’t guarantee I can get him the formula he needs. I feel like that’s always hanging over me and every little thing has become an ordeal. I also worry constantly about my daughter and husband. I just want the anxiety to go away; the panic attacks have been so unbearable at times I’ve wished I could just be inpatient at a mental hospital so I don’t have to do everything anymore. Anyway, I know other people have truly difficult situations but I thought I’d reach out to see if anyone has any suggestions. I’m feeling like I’m hanging on by a thread all the time. Thanks everyone!
@nelysthealchemist I wish I had words that could make you feel better and I hesitated to post because I'm sure I do not. But I do know how anxiety feels and how crippling it can be. When I feel it coming on the first thing I try is to get more rest/sleep...which I'm sure isn't easy with a little one. There are some supplements (GABA is one I use from time to time) that makes sleep easier. There's nothing wrong with talking with your doctor and see what they suggest.
It's such a stressful world right now but all any of us can do is "the best we can" and that doesn't look the same from day to day. I'm glad you reached out and I just wanted to let you know I "hear" you and I wish you well.
@nelysthealchemist Having a young baby is a serious test of anyone's sanity.
Can you ask your husband for more help? Any other family who could give you break now and then? I wish I had asked for more help post-partum but I didn't because I felt I should just buck up and deal with a non-sleeping baby and postpartum depression (which at the time I didn't even realize I had). I should have demanded my husband help me, or get help for me.
I think you need a break. If your husband or other family won't help, would it be possible to hire someone?
@nelysthealchemist Being male, I have not had your specific experience, but I do understand how your body is responding with anxiety and panic. When in great distress, as you report, I find it very helpful to consult with a doctor, preferably a psychiatrist. Anxiety and panic are medical conditions, and there are treatments available, whether short or long-term. You deserve reasonable and appropriate care. You are not alone in this struggle. You have many allies. As you have reached out here, consider reaching out for medical assessment, if you haven't already. And trust that you are in the prayers of many people, more than you likely know. Peace.
I am encircling you with a whole bunch of love and light.
I strongly encourage you to let your husband know in strong terms that you need his help. My husband would take the early morning shift after I nursed my daughters and that allowed me to fall back asleep of another hour or 2. It saved me. I had no family living in my city and we really needed to co-parent as much as possible. He enjoyed bringing them out in the morning to watch the sunrise together and have some peaceful quietude together before the day really got started.
I also had a blessed gift of a sweet señor lady from my church who weekly came to my home for 2.5 hours to spend time with my daughters when they were a babies through age 3. This would allow me to run errands and visit the doctor and just have a few moments to myself. It allowed her to be a "grandma" since her grandchildren were out of state. The bond was so strong that she would then attend their dance and music recitals and come to functions as a grandparent. She even attended my oldest wedding a few weeks ago.
Perhaps there is a senior person from your church, neighborhood, social organization or friend who might consider doing the same thing.
I will keep you in prayer, that a helpful and supportive solution reveals itself, you recognize it and are able to utilize the positive gift however it manifests. I truly hope your voice is heard and your needs are met.
@nelysthealchemist Sending you loving, healing energy... and your household... and putting angels on your daily calendar... know you are loved and that you WILL get through this.