Hello Everyone,
Although this is my first post, I feel like I know so many of you. I found this site in 2015 when I was looking for some encouragement, and an escape from the heavy feeling of what was to come for our collective. It has been an incredible support. I read your posts almost daily. When I can’t sleep at night I come to the site and read some of the predictions for the future, and I know things will be getting better for everyone eventually. This is a unique community and a safe space, and I feel so blessed to have found it.
But now, I really need your prayers, your light and your healing.
Approximately six months ago, I fled my home with my young adult daughter when my husband of nearly 30 years made a threat. His behavior had been escalating, and I knew in my gut we were not safe. We left with little more than a few personal effects and our pets. We have been in hiding ever since, with the help of a local domestic violence shelter.
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Please pray for our protection and healing. Please pray that things move along quickly we can very soon be completely separated from him and live a normal life in safety, free from abuse. Please pray for our sweet pets, who miss us as much as we miss them.
Thank you all in advance… ❤️
Busy Smiling
@busy-smiling I am surrounding you and your daughter and your pets with profound protection, the best protection I can imagine -- warrior angels who will stand over your home while you sleep and accompany you like body guards wherever you go. Please remain careful and vigilant, as I am sure you will. I am visualizing you in the future, far away from this man, safe and happy, and flourishing.
I am glad you reached out to us. I am surrounding. you all in a protective white light and sending light to your dreams. May they help you to heal instead.
I am praying for your release from this man and this trauma. Much love to you and yours.
@busy-smiling, thank you for posting and reaching out to us. May the wings of Archangel Michael and your guardian angels shelter you, strong with protection, soft with grace. I see a time when you and your daughter are safely settled and at peace, grateful that this trauma is behind you and happily reunited with your sweet pets. I am holding you all in my daily prayers.
Please let us know how you are doing. ❤️
Thank you for reaching out to us and welcome to the forum.
Until the day comes when you both can live in peace and calm, may you be surrounded by a host of angels who will protect, guide and comfort you. May you feel many blessings. May the proceedings and sale of the house move forward for the greatest good and healing soothe your souls like a balm. May your future life be filled with love, kindness and blessed protection.
@busy-smiling Welcome to posting on the forum. Like you, I often read the posts and predictions when I can't sleep. This site has been such a blessing, and I'm glad you've found comfort it.
Your husband and his behavior are emblematic of the low-level consciousness that, unfortunately, pervades our world right now. It's been aggravated precisely because it's on its way out, but it's not giving up without a ruthless fight, and neither is he. But he won't win, and he won't take from you and your daughter any more than he has. I've asked my departed mother, who was a fierce spirit, to guide and protect you. I'm also visualizing you and your daughter safe and on a clear, sunny path.
You are so brave. It takes guts to leave an abusive situation, but you've done it, and you should feel pride in your courage. Please know that people care about your well-being, safety and happiness, and we are all marshaling our collective energy in your support. Much love to you and your daughter, and your little furry ones.
Thanks to everyone who sent good energy and prayers in answer to my request. We managed to finally get the keys to the new place about an hour before friends and family were due to arrive. We still have a long way to go and another month or so until the actual move, but at least we are moving forward again.
@busy-smiling I am asking angels to surround you, your children and pets with protective and healing light. I hope the sale of your home will move forward despite the efforts of your ex so that you can have a fresh start and begin to heal.
Hello Busy--smiling,
Years ago, in my former profession, I was involved in a domestic violence agency that is now one of the best in the country.
It is great that you are out of the house; that is the most dangerous moment in time. I am sorry to confirm your basis for alarm but you should trust your instincts regarding his potential for violence. Yes, the divorce proceedings can be dangerous.
I don't know what state you live in, but we used to send people out of state occasionally. It can make legal transactions slightly more challenging but in these digital times, much, much less than you might imagine. We have a sophisticated pet fostering program as well. Continue your vigilance and consider exploring ways to get further away.
Blessings
@busy smiling, So glad you posted and am so proud of our community for their responses.
You have to keep a level head right now; and so far you have done an amazing job. Stay focused until you know you are out of danger. You are not out of danger, I am sorry to say, until he has passed from this earth, or you've gotten far far away and NO ONE knows how to find you and your daughter. As long as he is alive, neither of you must ever give away your locations, no matter how much time has passed.
The most dangerous period is after he is kicked out of that house where he can no longer fantasize that he still has you under his control. But there can be other dangerous periods later when his psyche goes in and out of darkness, so stay safe.
Do not let anyone tell you or your brave daughter that the danger is passed and you can reveal your location. She must also not be reachable. She should attend a school where he can't find her or know where she is. Get a VPN for your phones and computers. He must not be able to recognize her car or yours in a parking lot. Please be vigilant.
Once you are out of danger, you can begin to heal the PTSD that he has inflicted on you.
I pray for your safety and for your vigilance. I put angels around you and her wherever you go.
Thank you all for your kind words and support! It means a lot to me and my daughter.
@ghandigirl – Thank you so much. I slept better last night than I have in a long time. No bad dreams! I hope it stays that way. ...Thank you!
@deetoo – I hope the day you have seen comes soon. Looking back, I see the many red flags of his behavior spanning from the day I met him. It’s all so clear to me now. I think I probably knew it at some point but felt trapped and powerless. It seemed like no one would believe me. ... Thank you for your message of support. It is so meaningful!
@lovendures – I appreciate your prayers and kindness. Thank you for your prayers of protection and guidance. We surely need them right now.
@lynnventura – You are so right about the low level consciousness. ... I welcome your dear mother’s spirit to walk with us. She sounds amazing. Thank you for sending her our way!
@baba – Thank you for sending the angels and good thoughts! ... Thank you for sending good energy our way and I hope it opens something soon!
@raincloud – Thank you for sharing your valuable experience and advice. ....Thank you for your support and encouragement.
@jeanne-mayell – Thank you for your support and for fostering such a fantastic community! We are doing our best to stay grounded right now. ...Thank you for the warm welcome to the community and for the protective energies!
@Tybin - thank you for sending good energy our way! It is actually a relief to finally share the story and acknowledge it for what it is. One thing that I have found in this process is that the story is all too common. It makes me sad and angry that it is so ubiquitous. I hope that when this is all over I am able to help others in the same situation.
You sound resourceful, determined, clever and strong. One tip for the future; staying off the 'location grid' is possible (keeping Jeanne's many caveats in mind) with one exception, in the US anyway, and that is registering to vote.
You are wise not to rely on an order of protection. It will not keep him away, the one advantage is that police are supposed to arrest him if he violates it but arrests can be slow and you could be in danger in the meanwhile, which you know already.
I will picture your house selling and the house happily empty. 😎
I am so glad that deetoo sees a happy future for you. I feel it, too.
@raincloud - Thank you so much. My state has a program to help protect domestic violence survivors by providing them with a substitute address which can be used on state documents, including drivers' licenses, voter registration, etc. When the house sells, my daughter and I will opt in to that program and get our documents updated. :)
- @jeanne-mayell We will hear back tomorrow likely on how his brain is doing. I did hear that he is incredibly breathing on his own all of a sudden. He is still intubated though. Fingers crossed. I’ll be saying more prayers tonight! And if anyone would like to pass a few prayers to my daughter who is 7 who witnessed this I would appreciate it. The parents, including myself who helped rescue him are also experiencing PTSD symptoms. Thank you for all of your prayers for this little boy. Let’s hope for a miracle.
I will send more healing and angels to help reignite and grow back those neural networks that were harmed. I see angels sending electric waves through his brain. I see the possibility that continued nourishment of his brain with physical therapy could get them to grow back. His parents must have hope and a belief that they can bring him back to full function. Read the book My stroke of Insight by Jill Bolt Taylor where a woman grew back a whole side of her brain that had died from a stroke and regained full function. She had been a brain anatomist at Harvard before her stroke which rendered her a vegetable. And she defied conventional medicine and healed herself by forcing her body to relearn the lost functions. She succeeded due to her a caring mother who believed she could do it. It was hard work. but the brain can grow back what is lost with hard work.
Hi family I was away dealing with family issues and I come here reading BusySmilings post and it reinforces what we all know to be true. I too am asking for prayers and protection for my daughter and her children. Her husband who has been out of the house for 6 months is escalating. He has bipolar and has an addiction. He texts and calls her from early am through midnight. They are in the process of divorcing. The problem is that you need so much to prove he shouldn’t take the kids. He’s so irratic. We are all so frightened. The courts feel both parents are integral and I do agree but not when the behavior is so irrational. Please send light and protection to her and the kids. She is trying to get supervised visits but even that is a stretch. I appreciate it and thank you all in advance. @BusySmiling you have my prayers and thoughts also. Thank you.
Some states and cities have wonderful domestic violence agencies, some have weak or non-existent ones. If you haven't already, see if there are resources near you who can help guide you through the process of going to court, getting orders of protection, etc. Many offer free legal advice.
If you become alarmed, seek shelter. Most agencies have a shelter with undisclosed addresses where women and children can stay until partner violence is less threatening.
So sorry you all are dealing with this scary situation.
@raincloud thank you. This is for my daughter and her children. Please send light and peace.