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Ghandigirl,

I am so sorry for the challenges you are facing.  That's a lot to handle, and I praise you for your courage.   Be open to divine guidance, and don't give up hope.  I’m sending love and healing light to you.

May the sun bring you new energy by day.
May the moon softly restore you by night.
May the rain wash away your worries.
May the breeze blow new strength into your being.
May you walk gently through the world
and know it's beauty all the days of your life.

                                  Apache Blessing

 

Thank you so much for the beautiful messages.

I also went outside w my new little dog and had a picnic lunch,  and went to the library to get some large print novels. Reading is a great way to focus and change the thoughts.

Then I slept for hours and hours and hours which was restorative.

I am very appreciative for all of you.

I'm so glad that you nurtured yourself today, ghandigirl.  Pets can be very healing too.  My precious dog helped me at some very low points in my life.

Have a peaceful night.

(((Ghandigirl)))

Angels of light all around you ❤️ 

Ghandigirl, -- Holding you in light. Just keep breathing. Keep putting one foot in front of the other.  Prepare yourself to accept the good that is offered.

I’m having a very difficult time talking to my sister. I haven’t since the summer of July 2016 When I found out she was voting for him. She wrote me a letter the other day wanting us to talk. She said she doesn’t even want to talk about politics. I wrote back a very long letter saying that this is about values and wondering what her values are.

 I have tried to tell her in the other letters that he’s an adulterer, a liar, adores dictators, is a racist, and they’ll also cages children and separates them at the border without knowing who belongs with whom. I told her I don’t know who she is anymore and it’s very sad as we were just getting to be close.

 As is common these days, it’s apparently her religion, Catholic, that is focusing on abortion. She’s going to be 76 next month and also be 68, so I know we don’t have forever to get close. But she’s been self righteous toward me most of her  Life, and did not include me in my nieces wedding in 1992 because of my sexual orientation. I didn’t talk to her for seven years after that one. I go to therapy and I try to figure a way to have a relationship with her, but I just don’t Seem able to. I really need help. Thanks, Anita

Oh Anita, I understand how you feel. I go back and forth with this conflict with friends and family.  

It sounds like you've got some difficult past events with your sister that hurt you and are hard to forgive and need some healing.  If she's trying to get in touch with you, is it possible she is willing to respect you now?  You will only find out if you talk to her.  But you can only talk to her when you are ready. 

I just want to send you my love and support. You will do what is right for you when you are ready. 

If I love someone and that person treats me with kindness and respect, then we stay in touch and just don't talk at all about politics.  I have family and friends in this category.  Then again, if I hear that person speaking the same horrible way about other people that Trump and his minions speak, then I recoil and stay away. If they have lashed out at me and I don't want to take the chance it will happen again, then I stay away. 

I have an old  friend who supports Trump only because of the right to life issue, like your sister.  I love her and we don't talk about her choice since she is set on it. But your situation is different.  This is your sister, and there are other past issues that are in play for you. 

Many of the people I know who support Trump do so for reasons that have little to do with racism, intolerance, or repressive government.  Most of the time they only watch Fox News and have no clue what he's doing.  Each has their own reasons. 

I am not advocating co-dependency on your part. If your sister still judges you and is cruel to you, as occurred seven years ago, then perhaps keeping your distance is wise.  But if she wants to forge a relationship of love and respect, then perhaps it will work out. 

In the end, you will make the right choice for you and at the time that is best for you.   

Anita, my heart goes out to you.  I’ve been there with family and friends concerning the current White House occupant.  I totally agree with everything Jeanne said.  It does sound like you’re hurting and have some unresolved issues with your sister.  My sister is very different from me.  She is quite conservative, although she didn’t like any of the candidates who were running in 2016.  I’m pretty sure that she didn’t vote for Clinton, but I don’t know how she voted – and I don’t want to know.  We never discuss politics.  She is a kind, caring, ethical and good soul who I will always love, but I’ll never really understand (and I’m sure she’d say the same about me.)

As Jeanne mentioned, there are people who are one-issue voters.  It’s difficult for me to comprehend that, but I’ve met a few of them.  One of my friends voted for Trump because she was afraid of ISIS; she literally believed that ISIS had infiltrated this country and she was afraid for her children.   She believed that Trump was tough and would protect her family.  I almost laughed when she told me that, until I saw the fear in her eyes.  (She got a lot of her news from social media and Fox.)  Another friend of mine totally surprised me by her support of Trump; she believes that he was chosen by God and fulfills religious prophecy. 

 Sometimes I just feel stuck and don’t know what to do in a tough, emotional situation with someone.  So I pray for help.  Being the control freak I am, it sometimes takes a while to let go -- but in my advancing age, I’m getting better at it!  So I’ll say something like “Okay [God /  angels / higher guides / etc.], I need your help.  I’m too [mad / scared / etc.] and don’t know what to do with these feelings.  I don’t know what to do next, so I’m turning this over to you.  Give me the understanding and wisdom to make the right decision.”   I usually feel better after I do that, and the answer slowly reveals itself to me in some way. 

The fact that you’re bringing up the issue tells me that you’ll get there.  I praise you for your courage.  As Jeanne said, in the end, you will make the right choice for you and at the time that is best for you.   

Hello, dearest Anita!  i also have family members who voted for the monster. It is very difficult, but i am trying to forgive them, as they may not have understood how truly awful he would really be. But, if they choose to vote for him again, there is no excuse.  It would mean that they are complicit  in his crimes. Complicit in kidnapping and caging babies. Complicit in his treason. Complicit in poisoning the air and water. Complicit in all of the evil he has, and continues to do. This goes beyond ordinary ideological differences- they are trying to kill us! At this point, i think the most compassionate thing would be to explain to these folks, that i just cant be involved in their murder/ suicide scheme. (a nicer way of saying "F off, Nazi punks!")           

Thank you so much, Unk P. What you wrote makes so much sense to me.

i know that when my partner and I had a ceremony, though not yet legal, my sister

was worried I’d invite her to it. She wouldn’t come she told my brother.

i think she is so committed to Catholicism and to stopping abortion, that that is all she votes on. The thousands of pedaphile priests don’t seem to matter. The caged children don’t seem to matter, etc etc etc. All so sad.

i do love my sister, but her values are tearing me up.

thank you,

Anita