@thebeastthank
you for that encouragement.....
Anita
HI Anita, yes it doesn't make any sense for your partner to hug the guy. I would have been very angry too and reacted the way you did.
What I sense from your partner is that she is actually (deep down) very afraid of this whole situation with the pandemic and there is a part of her that is dealing with this fear with anger. I don't sense this anger is directed at you or anyone in particular around you. I sense that she may be unaware of her being angry about the virus and what it's doing so she's breaking the rules etc. because that's her way of internally rebelling against the pandemic situation - not at you but at the whole thing.
She will return! I will say a prayer & send light ? ❤️ for you both.
@Anita, I feel for you. For what it is worth, I didn't feel your partner hugged the other person on purpose. Felt like an instinctive response without thinking. Many people do not realize how hazardous it could be to hug someone during this pandemic. There are other issues going on within you and between you I'm sure.
Thank you. Yes, there are other issues. But nothing so large that can’t be worked out, I think. She’s still not talking to me. The loneliness is killing me.
Anita
I just had a friend who is a huge T supporter text me all kinds of nutty things just now that she feels about T being here from God and all that nutty stuff and she just made me so angry. She is also a psychic! It just made me rattled. I told her not to wish me "happy Easter" and talk about the Orange nightmare ever again.
While she was doing that I found out two friends of mine just died from the coronavirus. One was a chef who I have known for 25 years and another a co-worker. ?
@triciact, I am so sorry to hear of your friends' passing. This is such a challenging, fragile time, and our collective hearts are heavy with sadness. Our pain can feel unbearable when the loss is a personal one. I am sending prayers of support, comfort and peace to you and the loved ones of your departed friends. May you all be held in the light.
About the friend who texted you -- have you ever had an opportunity to tell her not to bring up T with you? You could also ignore the text, depending on how her words ultimately affect you. I find texts can sometimes invade one's boundaries -- you begin reading something before immediately recognizing where it's headed. Curious that your friend felt the need to communicate all of this to you -- perhaps to convince herself of what she claims to believe? My gut sense is that she is afraid.
I have a friend who is a gifted psychic and T supporter (or at least she used to be). She still believes in all kinds of crazy conspiracy theories. Last year I told her not to ever mention T, Obama-bash, or bring up politics with me again. Thus far she has been respectful, for which I am grateful. She doesn't live here, which might also make it a bit easier for me. We don't text -- only emails, and just light, funny things to share or prayer requests.
I wish that I could give you a big, physical hug right now. I hug you in spirit, my friend. I hope that it comforts you.
Lots of love.
❤️ ? ❤️
YOU are such a dear heart! THANK YOU. I truly wish we could have that hug! Someday it's a wish of mine to be able to actually personally meet you. I feel such warmth from the folks here and you are someone I certainly feel a connection with Dee.
She texted me and I actually just came right out and said, "please don't talk about T to me anymore it will just piss me off because I think he's evil and criminally responsible for the deaths of many people due to his response of the virus, etc." Well she wouldn't stop. I had to get firm. She said I was being mean by saying how I felt about it. That upset me more. I had just told her I had just found out about two friends of mine dying. You would think that would get her to back off? No. She dug her heels in and started saying how Dr. Fauci told the US we didn't have to worry about this virus back in January so it's his fault....and she talked about how Obama was the destroyer of the USA, etc. ....yadayada
I explained to her that back in the days of Hitler and his reign that family of mine in Germany, my grandparents, etc. hated Hitler but were not allowed to say that to most of their friends because they would defend him too. I told her that's how I feel about T. I equate him to the way they felt about Hitler.
I ended with the fact that I think of her often, love her, will send her lots of love and light, but can't handle this discussion ever again.
What is weird to me is this is the second person in my life who did this to me recently. My husband's cousin on my birthday did the same thing. So I'm starting to think that I am supposed to learn something here. The Universe may want me to change my thinking and how I respond. I must meditate on it and listen to what my guides are trying to tell me perhaps.
Thank you again Dee! ? ? ? ?
Well it seems like you are getting opportunities to set boundaries and good for you That's one take away.
I am sorry for the loss of your friends. It feels like the Trump supporters are just on an island of Denial. Sadly, talking points won't protect them.
I feel FURIOUS that all these misguided people will likely perish. Nobody is looking out for them. I don't agree with them on hardly anything but they are still my sisters and brothers.
I know for me I don't allow Pro Trump sentiment anywhere near me. It is definitely adding insult to injury.
@triciact, One of the many things I love about you is how passionate you are with your core beliefs and values. I believe what prompted your strong reaction to her text is the deep pain you were feeling from the sudden news of your friends' passing. It was a visceral reaction. Although the Mad King didn't cause this virus, and some people would have still passed away from it, he caused additional suffering and deaths because of his malignant narcissism, lies, denials and lack of empathy. You were feeling raw and were suddenly greeted with her offensive nonsense. So be gentle with yourself and give yourself a break.
I remember you sharing about the exchange with your husband's cousin on your birthday. I think part of the problem comes with taking the bait. I speak from painful, personal experience. In my case my ego would take over. Then I'd find myself in a -- dare I say -- pissing match with the other person. And to make matters worse, the other person isn't rational. And she might be defensive when she can't get what she wants. Plus it's not worth expressing your views if the other person is talking AT you. The bottom line is, she's part of The Cult. So unless you can plan a deprogramming intervention -- I've had fantasies of that, by the way -- it's not worth your emotions, brain cells, or precious time. You can pray for them, and send them your love, but loosen your grip, walk away and remain on your path.
Anyway, I don't know if what I said resonates, but those are my thoughts. As you give yourself some breathing room and meditate on it, I'm sure the answers will come.
I love you, gal!
@deetoo and @ghandigirl
Ghandigirl - yes I feel they are on that Island of Denial. Thank you for your kind words. I think of you often and whenever I wash my hands now I send a little light your way. And now I say it about everyone here. An extended family you all are!
Dee, what you said resonated completely. I was laughing at the part about the pissing contest. That is exactly what I was feeling and yes I was emotionally raw and angry about my friends dying and I do think the Orange nightmare caused more deaths than was necessary because of his delays and blame game. The weird thing is this friend of mine is such a really good psychic. Very eerily accurate so many times and she was there for me when my dad was sick and when he died. She really has a wonderful heart. Which confuses me even more about being a T supporter! My brain is really trying to figure it out.
I was walking with my husband and I told him that I remembered one day a long time ago I was frantically trying to find my blue belt. I had had it on that week and yet I was ripping my closet apart and starting to panic trying to find it. He came over to me in his calm demeanor, tapped me on the shoulder and gently pushed the blue belt toward my nose! It was literally hanging right in front of my face! LOL. I told him that's how I feel about the T supporters. How is it they can not see what is right in front of them?
Love you guys! HUGS ?