@tgraf66 sending loving, healing Reiki to assist your mother, ease her pain and to provide divine, golden/ white energy to create the highest good for your mom, her medical team and her family and friends. Divine loves surrounds her always.
It's been a long few weeks. I've figured out what was going on in the house. @journeywithme2 was right in noting that someone was trying to get a message or warning to me. After the things came flying off the shelves here, then there were a series of malfunctions in the smoke detector in my room. I had just replaced all the units in the house in the spring, so it wasn't an aging issue. The second time it happened in the middle of the night, I simply removed the offending unit. Everything that happened made me think of the baby first-what if the baby had been in the room, did that wake the baby, etc.? I was also finding that when using the Kipper cards, the False Person card flew out of the deck nearly every time I handled it. It all came to a head in the last two weeks.
It seems the kids were having problems they had not let me in on. I had known there were some issues, as I'd seen my son reach out to one of my friends (MSW, father figure/friend to my son, and head of the Boys & Girls Homes here in the eastern half of NC), then to his girlfriend's uncle. Then it all hit the fan. They broke up, and boy what a mess. She was who I was being warned about. It seems she's been verbally and emotionally abusive throughout the entire relationship.
In talking with a good friend repeatedly (this good friend has a PhD in Psychotherapy and another in Theology) I told her once the facade had been broken, I could then see overlapping personality traits from cluster B. My ex being a narcissist, I was very familiar. I suspect Borderline Personality, and my friend (who can't diagnose without consultations) said that's what she'd initially suspect if she were going to work with her, along with Oppositional Defiance Disorder. I had originally offered to allow the girlfriend and the baby to continue living here, but her behaivor detiorated (like making recordings trying to get money from my son's inheritance from his father & inflated child support) made me change my mind. She said last Sunday she was going to visit her grandparents, as her parents were in town for the weekend, and never returned. She filed for full custody (on her own-no lawyer) on Monday. I saw it coming, but until he was served with notice, my son thought they were going to work arrangements out on their own. I had contacted my old divorce/custody attorney on Monday morning, before she filed. It was solid fighting with my son on Monday and Tuesday, trying to get him to understand what we needed to do. I've been through this with a cluster B personality, and he hadn't. He finally got what I was saying when we found out Tuesday that after she picked up her belongings, she was moving the child 3 hours away. She can't support herself, so she's going to her parents home to stay. She's not allowed by law to move the child without agreement from the father, which she didn't get prior.
By the time we finished with the attorney (he's ranked #1 in the area), my son understood where I was coming from. I have to admit, for ages, I've seen the baby with my son and I without the girlfriend around. I always wondered if there was an accident or something coming for her. However, my PhD friend gave another explanation. Joint custody means she can't do what she wants, she has to follow rules, court orders, and can't micromanage my son any longer, which are things that her possible disorders can't handle. She may just throw up her hands and walk-at least for a while. She didn't do adult life well when it was just her-can't manage to hold full time jobs, keep a roof over her head, etc., so it wouldn't surprise me if for a while it's just me and my son taking care of the baby.
I've had a week to get this house back into shape, she's sort of a hoarder, and never cleaned. I could feel the energy changing daily here, starting when she left, getting lighter when her things were removed, and now that things are clean (still need to do some deep cleaning), I saged the house yesterday. I've gone from waking during the night routinely to sleeping longer than normal, which tells me I'm catching up on my rest that I was missing. My son has gone to Denver to visit a friend and relax for a change. I'm home alone with the dogs, and it's peaceful. Now that we have the attorney of my choice (expensive but worth it), I can breathe again. Our first court date is on the 7th, and that should get my son joint custody-50/50, and force the move back to our county. So we'll have the baby here every other week at minimum. I packed everything the child owned save for a few toys that were gifts from us or our friends. It was easier to clean house and start again than to try to work with an emotional tazmanian devil. I've started from scratch (once the nursery was clean), new clothes, toys, linens, books, etc., and all I need now are the the new crib and mattress, which should arrive in the next 2 days. He'll have all he needs in a clean environment after court is through. All is going to be well, I finally feel it now.
It's been such a few weeks, that I didn't even know of the election results until probably Thursday. LOL I saw a map of how blue NC turned. You'll note in the eastern portion of the state, it's all red, except for my little blue dot down on the southern coast.
@ghandigirl, I was with my father and mother till the end. Bear in mind that you may not be there at the exact moment they pass. Some want company as they transition, others don't want their loved ones to bear that memory. Either way, it's their choice, and should be respected. You won't regret the time you spend with someone in their last days and hours.
@tgraff66, I've sent love, light, energy and asked the angels to be with your mother.
Boy have you been through it recently.
I wish you a peaceful and healthy transition in your household. May your grandchild live a happy, healthy and love filled life. May you and your son grow an even stronger relationship with each other. May light surround you always.
Boy have you been through it recently.
I wish you a peaceful and healthy transition in your household. May your grandchild live a happy, healthy and love filled life. May you and your son grow an even stronger relationship with each other. May light surround you always.
This, thank you for expressing my thoughts.🤗
My mother passed away tonight.
I was able to see her on Sunday. She held hands with me and with her stroke affected hand and arm she began to shake my hand and arm repeatedly. She pulled my arm up to her chest twice. She opened her eyes and tried to talk to me.
Her grip was so strong it almost hurt and there was urgency in her movements.
I don't want to leave. I know you are here. I love you so much. You are in my heart. That's what she said with her hand and her arm.
I sang to her again and I know she knew it was me and that she knew that I was there.