@coyote It is so good to hear from you. How are you feeling at this point? We will keep sending you healing. I am so glad you are still getting care while you heal.
Clearly I’d like to be home and comfortable But there are millions of people in the world now who I want that, especially in Ukraine, who Can’t get that.
@coyote Yay!! I’m so happy to hear from you. May you be protected during your recovery and feel better every day. You’re making progress, my friend!
🙏🏻❤️💚🙌💚❤️🙏🏻 Prayers ongoing.
Know all
is preceding to your Highest Good.
There is something I feel the need to address, tho I'm not quite sure where to put it, so I opted for this thread.
In a recent post elsewhere in the forum, someone made references to atrocities that were often carried out in war, military conflict etc. This is not to call out that person specifically, it is to address a systemic problem that I see. In the post there was a reference to rape, and it was noted that soldiers have had a history of defiling innocent women in those areas that have been invaded. This needs to stop-and I'm not just making reference here to what the soldiers have done-that's obviously got to stop.
I am a survivor. I was not defiled. Only my own words and actions can defile me-not what someone else has done to or said about me. To defile means to sully, mar, spoil. I am none of those things because of what happened to me. The perpetrators DID defile themselves with their actions. That's their Karma. I also often hear people use terms like "robbed them of their dignity." Again-hogwash. Dignity means worthy of respect or honor, or self-respect. My self-respect is my responsibility-just like everyone else. Wounded soldiers are given more respect, honor, and even medals and accolades because of their trials and tribulations, but attack someone sexually, and they've got less dignity? NO. We didn't voluntarily go into battle, it came to us. It came to us in our homes, our schools, our workplaces, while on dates, or just walking in our towns. It is often perpetrated by someone we know instead of a nameless face in an unfamiliar place. Yet we go on. Unlike a wounded soldier who leaves the battlefield, and is returned home, our homes and other familiar places are our battlefields, and we often can't leave them or avoid them. We often can't avoid seeing the face of our perpetrator. Thus, we have courage others never recognize.
Yes, we were physically abused. We were injured, but the systemic use of language used to supposedly sympathize with us is actually harmful. It in itself is stigmatizing and achieves the opposite of what was intended. It is part of the reason many of us stay silent. Such terminology was generally used to shift blame from the male perpetrator to the female victim. If we talk about the victim, we can ignore the culprit. I'm saying this not to make others feel bad for having used such responses or phrases, but to educate. These archaic thought patterns are engrained systemically. It's only by having someone point out their actual effects can we start to eradicate their harmful usage.
Ok, I'm getting down off my soapbox now.
@cindy Thank you for reporting a post and also for helping raise the level of sensitivity here in the words we choose. I agree with you, but I did not see the post. We try here to temper and even remove posts that are disturbing. There is a button at the bottom of each post for reporting any post you want to report entitled <report>. I don't know which post it is although I did a search and found a few over the last three months. And I believe you also have my email address which is also on the Contact page and can just drop me a line. People reach out to me about posts all three ways! So it will remain up until I am told which post it is.
@jeanne-mayell there was no need to report the post. The poster was clearly trying to be emapathetic towards victims. No harm was intended. It is something that I felt needed to be addressed to the collective. Words matter, and many who use such terms do so not to be offensive, but to acknowlege that injury was inflicted on someone innocent. If I just emailed you, or reported the post, it would have been a missed opportunity to educate others who's intentions are good, but their execution may be a little lacking.
I am hurting.
A friend has died suddenly leaving a daughter close to my daughters age, the obituary says seeing her daughter graduate from college was her greatest joy,
My daughter continues to reject me. I never imagined I would lose her like this, if I die tomorrow I feel like she wouldn't care. And if she did it would be too late.
It is a struggle to feel unwanted.
I am tired and very sad.
@ghandigirl you are in my prayers and thoughts today. I am asking the angels to send you some support.
@ghandigirl 🙏🏻❤️🌤❤️🙏🏻🌞 sending hugs and Love and Light.
May you know you are not alone as you work through this.