[Closed] Prayers and/or Energetic Healing Needed Part 3

@jeanne-mayell Thank you, Jeanne. You are right, it is death by means of suicide. It happened because of mental illness and deep depression. It is helpful for me to type those words. I hope my brother and his wife will one day be able to internalize that and know it was not their fault.  Thank you for helping me.

@lowtide, after seeing Jeanne's post, there is something more my gut says I have to add. I, too, have lost family (a nephew-26) to suicide. For those of us spiritually inclined, we can sometimes get a read on folks who have left. Everyone seems to think that those who left by suicide are wracked with guilt, or from a religious perspective, they aren't going to heaven, etc. I haven't found this to be true-though I'm sure there are those who have regret. In the case of my nephew, he came through rather quickly with his dark sense of humor. He literally made me laugh out loud. I won't get into that right now, maybe some later time when things aren't so fresh. But he let both me and my younger sister (he was the son of our oldest sister) know he was in a better place. He struggled with addiction from early teens. He felt lighter and more at peace than he did here. Likewise, I was taking my son as a teen to a friend's funeral after her suicide. I wasn't going to allow him to deal with it alone. On the way there (and I never met her in life) I found myself telling my son that it was actually an accident. Her crisis moment had passed, and she slipped trying to get down. I had no clue until I said that to him how she had succumbed. My son looked at me in a dumbfounded way, but he then understood. I don't know how your brother and his family will take such things, but knowing your sensitivity, don't be surprised at feelings you may get from your nephew. 

The other thing that I feel compelled to tell you is this: don't be surprised if in their grief, your brother or sister-in-law make a statement like they wish they could die. This does not necessarily mean they too are suicidal. Let me explain. I wished this all the time. I prayed to often God for him to take me. We had psychiatric specialists come in to talk with the crash parents-at least those who were up to attending. These professionals not only specialized in grief, but in public tragedy, which has many more layers of issues to deal with. The one doctor was curled up in her chair and asked the group if any of us wanted to die. I was honest, and said yes, daily. I didn't care what the other parents thought of it, I was looking for honest answers, as was the doctor. I saw her sort of grin. She looked at the other doctors on the panel and told them that in her earlier years, she would have put a suicide watch on me if I were her patient, but she could plainly see now that was wrong. She had dealt with the loss of a son, and it changed her perspective. I could see she was trying to educate the others on the panel, so it came as no surprise when she asked me if I would do anything to harm myself. I said no. Again she had a slight grin, the other doctors looked perplexed, and she told the doctors to listen to what I had to say. She asked me why I wanted to die.  My goal wasn't to die, nor would I have done anything to harm myself. It was just in my grief, it was the only way I could figure that I'd see Monica again. She then told the other doctors that she too often wished to die, but had never entertained the thought of harming herself. She realized this would always change how she dealt with bereaved parents. Ask enough questions, and you'll figure out what the statement really means. I want to take my own life, vs I hurt so badly I want to go and see my child. There's a world of difference. Don't hesitate to be concerned if you hear such things, and make sure (or enlist the help of a professional) you know what their intentions are before you are overtaken with fear of the domino effect. 

@lowtide 

Hello lowtide,

I had a close suicide in my life but not a child--so tough.

I wonder if a life coach who specializes in grief and loss could be helpful. I know there are wonderful therapists out there but coaches have the goal of moving clients through emotions/situations while some therapists seem to let clients spin around in them. I do not know if your brother could afford coaching; fees range widely but if you would like some direction in finding one, Jeanne could give you my contact info and I could help.

Another idea, depending on how your brother thinks and using your judgment regarding timing, would be to give him the book, Life After Life by Raymond Moody, MD. It is a short and simple read and it would be hard to finish it without feeling that one's loved one went to a better place. You might want to read it first to consider if you think it might be helpful.

Cindy's post is full of profound observations.

sending soothing, loving energy....

@jeanne-mayell  Asking that Creator bless and use the drs hands as Divine instrument to bring healing through surgery. To bless the hands of the anesthesiologist  and surgery tech teams. To bless all hands that touch Antonia to be healing,loving hands. Bless the recovery team and post op staff care. May this be a skillful " pruning away the dead,injured parts of the plant so the health and growth of the plant is restored"Asking Creator to send Aa Raphael to attend and oversee Antonia's care. 🙏🏻💚💜💚🙏🏻

@lowtide I am so very sorry for the loss of your nephew. There is much wisdom in the other posts to you here. I am keeping you and your brother's family in my thoughts for loving support and space for grief. And especially your nephew for peace. 

@elaineg I’m so sorry for the loss of your brother. I can feel your pain.  I will keep you in my prayers and ask for peace and healing come quickly.  We are here for you.  None of us are alone even if we feel that way at times.  Peace dear one. May angels wrap you in love and protection.

My Friends

 Please join me in sending light and healing to our dear friend Mark. Energetically I feel heaviness around my heart. He is a lightning strike survivor and that has affected his heart. He has some other health issues. Mark is part of a large friend group that my boyfriend and I a part of. He met Mark in the neighborhood and at school. Mark is his best friend. My boyfriend and I met in first grade, and I met Mark in second grade.

Mark is beloved by anyone who has ever met him. A Big heart, A Big smile. 

 I am feeling a lot of impressions right now. Seeing all colors, seeing Heaven. I do that sometimes. I believe that I have called my family guides to intercede. They tell me the way is not opened, not as of yet. 

 I also ask for light for our whole friend group, many of whom we have been connected to for over fifty years.  Especially my boyfriend. He has endured more loss than is even imaginable in his life. We need Mark, We can't spare him. 

@ghandigirl I will send prayers and light to Mark and for those who love him.  You describe him as a beautiful person and I could feel that.  May he receive complete healing.   Sending you peace and love.

@ghandigirl Sending up the prayers and sending y'all the Love,Light and Healing Energy!!

Hi Community, I want to thank you for your prayers for my friend Antonia.  She had her surgery and has emerged all in one piece, which had been a concern. She even sat up and wrote to me this morning that she was feeling okay and looking forward to taking some walks soon.  That is a great sign.  There is still a ways to go, but I am certain your prayers were a huge help in getting her this far. 

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