@pat-czap I’m so very sorry for the loss of your husband. Sending love and peace to you. Be gentle with yourself.
@cindy Thank you for your post about grieving and feeling guilty about a moment of laughter and happiness. It hit home with me regarding an interaction I had with my brother about 9 months after his son died. We were talking about travel. My husband and I were about to go to Europe and he was telling me to make sure we go here and there, to this restaurant, etc. I commented to him that it was so good to hear him excited and that our talking about travel really brought him to life!
I knew in that moment that I shouldn't have said it. It was just so good to have my brother back. We haven't had a decent texting or verbal conversation since. I made him feel guilty, but I didn't mean to. No words. Grief is terrible.
My tests appear to indicate I'm good to go - They measure fatty liver disease in 1/3 increments and I have to be less than 1/3, which I was, and there is no scarring, and my liver is the firmness it's supposed to be (and nothing more) I won't get a call from the center because I've already passed the bigger tests, but having looked up a really helpful website that tells me what each measurement should be we're in the clear.
I was talking with K last night and we've been using a pregnancy metaphor (I'm deeply sorry for this ladies on the site) - We finally decided the little bundle of bile duct joy I'm caring for right now should have a name so we decided on "Greg." So...Greg is good to go!
(My wife is already designing "Team Greg" shirts for everyone to wear when the transplant takes place.
Goal is still February for weight loss and March/April for the procedure!
@dannyboy Okay then. My husband who just passed was Greg. I have seen his name and birthdate a lot the last few days. It's rather funny to have you name your bile duct bundle of joy...Greg! More power to you.
@pat-czap You know, as soon as I read the message from @dannyboy I thought about you and looked up your original post to confirm the name! I was worried it might upset you, but had the thought (as you mentioned) that it might actually be a little nod from him and Spirit to reassure you. I love that you have been seeing his name and birthdate around. Definitely not a coincidence. May it bring a smile to your heart.
@cc21 Greg and I were 2 months from 45 years of being married. He was my best friend. When Greg from Metronet knocked on my door, I was like alright, that's weird. When I picked up an art piece at a local store, flipped it over and the signed date was his birthdate, that was something. Other incidents have happened as well. I do believe he is trying to get my attention. 🙂 Dannyboy and K choosing Greg as the name is random to say the least, and amusing to me. I have to tell my sister who is visiting this new name association.
Small update: The spine specialist is recommending an MRI, but he said any decision about surgery will need to wait until he has that in his hands. The MRI center is supposed to call me to schedule it in the next few business days, but probably tomorrow.
I explained to him that I'm violently claustrophobic which is somewhat incompatible with an MRI. He gave me some Ativan to take before I go to the center and then again just before the procedure. I question whether that will be sufficient, but the only other option is full sedation, which could be done, but would have to be scheduled further out. *sigh*
@pat-czap oh my goodness - I didn’t make the connection until now. 😳. We both had different people named Greg who went out of their way to help us in the past. My current professor, who I had the most during this new degree I’m finishing was also a Greg and that’s sort of where the name came from - a discussion on helpful people’s names!
@pat-czap I love it! I had a similar thing when my Dad passed years ago. He was always the one to help with car stuff and had helped me buy my first car. A few months after he died, I needed to get a new vehicle (trading in the one he helped me buy years before.) My new-ish husband and I went to the local dealer and found a vehicle we wanted. We were referred over to a sales person to complete the paperwork and her first name was the same as my Mom's and her last name was my Dad's first name. 😯 Totally felt his presence there and knew he was helping us get our next vehicle!