You are so awesomely right and exactly how I feel. All our domestic pets are strays, one with feline leukemia already passed. I loved and cared for them all. The passings are often so lovely and even easy at home but then you and I have those communicating and transition doula gifts.
Love to you fellow traveler ?
Deeply and truly sorry for the loss of your and your daughters little cat. Truly hoping this loss if followed by many more loving and filled with good memories days once the awful no good terrible missing days finally ease.
But what wonderful last memory of the head bop goodbye to her canine companion and sweet leaving so easily as sad as they still are.
Keeping you and your daughter in my heart and thoughts.
Aw, @lauraf, This is so hard. No words. It is so hard to lose a little furry one. I saw one of your kitties sitting on your shoulder during one of our zoom events. You love with all of your heart, and they soak it up.
@tbs So sorry to hear... yes... enjoy the days together until you have to say good-bye. Knowing its coming helps you prepare... and yet? we are never ready to say good-bye. We are comforted by the special moments we make together to become treasured memories until the time we are together again. Holding space for you as this comes to pass in your lives.
My aunt by marriage died a couple of years ago. She and my uncle had a cat, Martha (named after Martha Stewart because she got out of prison the day our Martha left the shelter). She was an adult cat when she was adopted. That cat has had medical problems over the years.
Since my aunt died, Martha seems to have miracle cures. I know my aunt is keeping her going.
There's the same situation with my old boss and his cat Victor. Victor is ancient. My old boss said, "When Victor goes, I go." (He's extremely depressed and, at this time, ill.) Well, his wife died a few years ago. Somehow Victor is still going strong. No one can believe it. I can. He's getting some extra help.
It may sound corny to some, but I know our loved ones are looking out for us and our animals, and when it's their time, they stay with us in our hearts and are cared for by people we've lost.
@suspira44 Beautiful written, and I also believe in this. And sometimes the animal know when it is time to go , because they feel a change is coming ....
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Thanks, everyone. I've kept very busy today - painting a room in my house, repairing a soaker hose in the "back 40", harvesting some nopales and tunas (cactus + their fruit) back there too. I'm too tired to feel too sad today, but I do feel sad again in waves.
Our vet called to offer her condolences, she really cared about Tess. I learned something from her I had never heard of, maybe @journeywithme2 can confirm this. I told her no autopsy but asked her opinion, I described in detail what happened, that there was no crying out, no foaming at the mouth, no indications of pain at all, no lethargy, etc.
The vet said that when cats have a long, chronic, inflammatory type illness (3+ years of autoimmune issues for Tess), that sometimes a part of the heart called the chorda tendinea can rupture suddenly causing immediate death. She said a stroke is less likely because she would have cried out and would not have died as quickly (we've had 2 other cats die of strokes in the past, and Tess's passing was completely different).
@laura-f Yes.. there are several ways they can pass quickly and not struggle and suffer and yes..strokes cause contortions and yowling and arching and twisting of the body. Emboli and aneurysms can cause sudden death. They pass quickly and without suffering in many of these cases. Without a necropsy its a professional guess.. and.. one that doesn't really change the outcome so I understand not doing one. Yes.. those of us in this profession ...really do care.. and.. are not in it for the money....the pay scale for the highly skilled and stressful work is not commensurate with what it asks of those of us who chose to do it. It hurt for years to have angry or hateful people scream "you're just in it for the money" with no idea of what we do and the lengths we go to and the emotional investment in helping our patients. It lost it's sting when I came to understand they were lashing out at us to assuage their own grief and guilt. She'll let you know ..very soon.. she is fine and nearby and loves you still.
@bluebelle Thank you for the offer?Here she is - I have had some issues getting the photo rotated the right side up in the upload) Pikake (I borrowed her name?) is 12 and came to us 3 years from another family where she was pushed aside because the boy developed severe allergies.
I was wondering if you can pick up why she is tearing so much of late. In Spring, we thought it was allergies but it now affects both eyes and it’s the tearing that stains the fur. She recently underwent 3 sessions of Emotion Code clearing.
Thanks again - I am so looking forward to what you pick up.
