Vestralux my path is about letting go of my soul’s victim mentality (I recently left an abusive marriage). Your post - the second option speaks loudly to me. I have a strong desire to help my ex who has been with me many times to awaken too but I guess I don’t know how and I’m afraid I need to create stronger boundaries and accept a neutral position. But I try to send him light and love. As a teacher, your cafeteria imagery is well adapted to the analogy. In any case we chose this life, we chose this path, through it we will learn and be of service.
Jaidy. ❤️
I'm warmed to hear you've found the courage to step out of an abusive dynamic. That cycle is difficult to leave, especially in a marriage. Even when we finally do, there can be strong auric attachments, which we call by names like "codependence," which is real, though there's more to it energetically speaking. So yes, boundaries are so important, but so is clearing our energy field and taking care of ourselves in all the ways.
Maybe I should have mentioned that many of us who've chosen to stay in this parallel, also seem to have chosen to experience a great deal of personal trauma (take Jeanne's personal example further up the thread). And I believe we must begin to heal and integrate these traumas before we can be of the best service. I call it the Chiron Bridge—Healer, heal thyself.
Taking on these traumas unites us fully in the ancestral lineages we've adopted, and it offers us authentic experiential understanding of those we now serve. I believe that in the great arc of time, we've all played the part of both oppressor and oppressed, victimizer and victimized. Saint Francis of Assisi said that compassion is the recognition that I, too, have been capable of any act.
Maybe this is why you're able to love your ex-husband, failures and all. That comes from a soul level. But to also fully love yourself from that place means that you can no longer permit him to harm you in any way. Tolerating harm would not only be unloving to yourself, but it would actually be unloving to him—because each of his unloving actions further degrade his soul's condition.
This doesn't mean that you were accountable for his behavior when you were trapped in the abuse cycle, which was an unconscious process. But now that you're waking up, now that the rewards of consciousness are greater (i.e., you feel greater clarity and freedom and love), there is also greater responsibility. I believe we're called not just to wake up, but to clean up. Because we're not just ourselves alone, but a mutual being of interdependence. My actions—and even simply what I will allow from others—does not just affect me; it affects all of us.
I'm being reminded of these very same lessons today with a longtime friend who struggles with mental illness and addiction. She's relapsing and lashing out. It's hard to draw the line when a big part of me wants to run to the rescue—but we can't save someone from themselves. I don't take her behavior personally. And precisely because I love her, I won't allow her to mistreat me.
vestralux thank you for that. When i left I felt a huge burden lift and a contentedness I had never felt. But I was trying to practice offering loving kindness to him and we stayed friends. He suffers from a mood disorder that brought chaos to our family and only recently did i understand that I needed to end our friendship and allow him to experience the consequences of his actions for him to grow. That is a significant piece- understanding that to love him, meant not letting him harm me. I was only able to see it through the eyes of my daughters- letting him harm me, was harming them.
I'm so glad to hear you've been able to make this separation, Jaidy—for your daughters' sakes, and yours. And for his. ?
I don't fully understand what I have been reading in this thread ha ha
It does however remind me of what I have read and seen about Dr. Masaru Emoto who did studies on water and energy and showed how water reacted to conscious frequencies.
For those who don't know, Dr. Masaru Emoto performed a series of experiments observing the physical effect of words, prayers, music and environment on the crystalline structure of water. Emoto hired photographers to take pictures of water after being exposed to the different variables and subsequently frozen so that they would form crystalline structures. Classical music produced water crystals which looked beautiful where as heavy metal music created the opposite looking crystals. Dr. Emoto went on to type out different words, both positive and negative in nature, and taped them to containers full of water. The results were that water bottles with positive words on the container produced water crystals which were far more symmetrical and beautiful than water bottles with dark, negative phrases written on them, The same happened when polluted water was prayed over. The ugly crystals because beautiful geometric snowflake like shapes.
The research appeared to show water has memory. It reacts to pictures , music and feelings. It has vibrations.
Dr. Emoto felt that water was a messenger of God. He felt that if we are in vibrational harmony we are healthy, if we are in disruptive vibrational disharmony, we become unhealthy. ( Studies show we are made up around 60% water. Some life organisms are up to 90% water).
Water is both around us and in us and is shownto reflect positively or negatively depending on its surroundings.
The same thought could be said about the oceans and the planet.
So, using this idea, I would think that the more positive thoughts of a situation, the better the likelihood of a positive result. For example, envision the candidate you like being elected to office instead of them "not losing", as the word "losing" is a negative vibrational word. I am sure many people here already think and act in this manner, I just thought I would mention it because I know I need reminders, perhaps someone here does as well.
Note to self. I need to consciously make sure I am consciously giving thanks before a meal and truly wishing people I interact with well.
Lovendures, yes! Dr. Emoto's work was a beautiful practical illustration of the way products of consciousness (thought forms, intention, artifacts like music, etc.) can either cohere or fragment a field, which in this case, is water. Cymatics is another great example.
Really, everything is energy and energy is fluid. Consciousness is the conductor; it sets the frequency and frequency determines design.
The more loving, affirming, and intentional our consciousness, the more coherent our frequencies—and the more beautifully and powerfully we co-create.
Here's another article to add to the great articles Mikeb posted here and the multi universe idea that Velatrux and Lovendures discussed. One of our readers sent me this article that the human brain contains at least 11 dimensions of thought.
In other words alternate universes exist in the brain.
Love this conversation.
Science is finally catching up with what many of us have been experiencing for decades. Hurrraaaayy!!!
Eighteen months ago, Zoron and I had some pretty great conversations here on the whole construct of quantum realities and multi-verses and multi-realities.
I'm happy we can go back into the conversation with Vestralux and now so many others!
Really loved your linked article, Jeanne.
OMG, Lovendures! I was just thinking about Dr. Masaru Emoto's book, The Miracle of Water this morning. I have used the concept he used in these experiments for years to boost my mood. I stopped on this page before going to the how to get through these times page to post about it. Now I think it might belong here.
After I read Dr Emoto's book, I thought, if a positive word works on a bottle of water, why wouldn't it work on me. After all, we are made of mostly water. I started wearing positive fun socks to see if it would affect my mood. It definitely seems to work. I have socks with the word love, peace symbols, rainbows and other positive words on them. I also have socks that make me laugh like a raccoon in a floatie, a fox in a top hat, even dinosaurs being beamed up by UFOs. It is really hard to look down at a pair of socks that makes you happy and remain negative. And it is amazing how many times a day I look down at my socks. Even in the summer, I wear little footie socks around the house that speak to me. Target has cheap crazy socks. So do many novelty stores. There are fun socks for men out there also, so guys can try this too. I really believe this works on my tootsies just like it did for Dr. Emoto with the water molecules.
Hmm. The way I see the multiverse is as a great churning ocean of potentialities. Conciousness lights up the potentialities which then become realities. (Quantum collapse of the wave form).
But as we have 7 billion consciousnesses lighting up potentialities and collapsing the wave-forms, there gets to be a tug-of-war about which realities become actualities.
Enter the visionaries. Some gifted visionaries act as lenses that focus potentialities, collapsing the wave-form by the strength of their consciousnesses. The strength of MLK's vision gave shape and form to an inchoate yearning for social justice--helping to collapse that waveform into being. In a reverse fashion, Trump has lensed racism and hatred into a palpable reality.
The reality that wins is the one we choose to feed, by how we hold our consciousnesses.
Those of the prophetic mindset can tune into multiple potentialities, yes. If there are two competing potentials, the prophet (intuitive, tarot reader) may see one possibility or the other or both. We've been calling those different timelines.
Vestralux, the imagery I get is that the non-manifest potential universes 'fade away' if not lensed into being by consciousness. A grid of multiverses exists in potential, but consciousness travels through them actuating a position in that grid into 'reality' moment by moment. If consciousness isn't there collapsing that waveform, a universe doesn't exist except as potential.
One of the things that a shamanic practitioner does is clear out the pre-programming of consciousness that determines which realities are perceived into being. Essentially, they can achieve a 'null state' where waveforms are not collapsed, but remain pluri-potent. That is when miracles seem to happen.
All very speculative. YMMV. R1