Tee I am sorry you are going through this. I understand how you feel and how difficult it is sometimes to function when you can't control what's going on around you. Sending you lots of light and love. Just try to breathe and keep going, as best you can.
Tee I am sorry you are going through this. I understand how you feel and how difficult it is sometimes to function when you can't control what's going on around you. Sending you lots of light and love. Just try to breathe and keep going, as best you can.
Tee, I hope you're feeling better today. There's something I do when I feel life is spinning out of control, and you can totally laugh at me for this, but it's something I picked up from my grandmother - "When the going gets tough, the tough get to cleaning." I know it sounds ridiculous, and when I was younger I didn't know what it was that my grandmother was really trying to impart to me, but now I find that cleaning something, anything, creates an in-the-moment mindfulness immediately. Controlling one tiny corner of the universe for a bit calms me down and clears my head. I know this isn't for everybody, but if you feel up to it, give it a try. Polish one piece of furniture. Fold 1 basket of laundry. Something small. Take your time doing it, and try to focus on the task at hand. My grandmother, an immigrant who came to this country in 1910, lived to the age of 96. I still miss her, but am grateful for her wisdom that I carry within me.
Hi Gigi
Can relate to neighbours from hell - utterly powerless to change it on my own - no response - bullying is his families way of life - women are last line of respect to him - unless its at the pub and hes into anything with a pulse. :) younger vintage of course.
His inaction and endless lies and complete lack of responsibility have left my place severely water damaged.
At the end of my tether am trying a shaman technique to eliminate crossed conditions that include prayer.
Am open to a solution that is way beyond my knowledge - a little or big miracle.
Any other ideas from anyone with a clue or two on here would be appreciated. Legal action is out of the picture.
Thanks
Kittycat my situation is not as serious as yours, no serious water damage here. Just fence damage from the neighbors, their loud noisy teenage kids throwing trash, balls, and x-rated items over the fence and at the house, their aggressive dog who is left outside to bark all day and who fights with my dog, who now can't use his own yard, pounding bass music at odd hours.... just average suburbia issues that escalated unnecessarily. They moved in March of last year and it is a headache.
When you mentioned the shaman technique for "crossed" conditions, I had to laugh. Because I came across this topic on the internet while desperately searching forums for ways to deal with the neighbors -- some included sprinkling of salt and pepper along the premises, saging the property to cleanse it from negative energy, protection spells, etc. It is rather amusing that we both have neighbor problems and feel we have to resort to this, but to me, in a way how is this any different than prayer and calling on positive forces for protection and help? Coming from a Catholic background I know this could be considered sacrilegious to some. But in the B.C. era, surely people had neighbor problems before Christianity. They dealt with it in their own spiritual way. So, I too am very open to any possible solutions, regardless of spiritual/religious background, so long as there is no harm to anyone.
Also, maybe my thoughts / thoughtforms are attracting negative energy. Maybe the neighbor issue is manifesting itself because I'm somehow attracting that kind of negativity into my life. If I think my neighbors are nightmares, then perhaps these thoughts are becoming reality.
Laura's suggestion is a clever one -- cleaning house can be very grounding and proactive. I'm feeling very ungrounded, not to mention I haven't been keeping house lately LOL
Thanks Gigi,
That was such an appropriate response.
Yep dog that barks day and night, he is a sweetie but has the responsibility of chasing off any wildlife, always looks half starved and never allowed inside - no gentle training - just gets screamed at. Way to go - so NOT.
Simply ignorant people who bought one house block of the divided beautiful acre of landscaped gardens, tennis court, huge beautiful trees, old stables..........then built very expensive huge house, etc etc. So sad to see it go and be replaced by this lot who eventually revealed their true nature......................they think this gives them status :) :) :) news for them..............sorry.
Anyway - the shaman idea came to me from the net.BUT works to change anything in me that has 'chosen' this place and path and being treated in such a disrespectful way......... Think, by the cheap incense that floats out onto the whole front yard in summer time, could have something to do with it. Also 'legal protection' if you get my meaning.
I moved here thinking I was buying a different house - however the seller vanished by the time due to move in - well he was a bit of a scammer by the story from the people who eventually did buy his place. Think there was skulduggery going on - real estate agent - council - both left town very quickly under some cloud. Sigh - money deals, grubby fingers in everything. So this house was the only one in my price range.
My cousin, animals and myself - drove here - long trip for my new start - pulled into the temporary accommodation awaiting moving in date for this place. She left to bus it to another state. BUT my first reaction was a flood of tears as I said 'what on earth have I done'...oh well - get on with it, so it all began the downhill slide from there. Some karma - yep think so.
Thanks for your reply - its challenges all round it seems. When one is brought up to be respectful, kind and courteous, this lot are a bit of a jarring wake up call - maybe I should have become some aggressive harpy to earn some respect.
Hi Gigi,
Found a little device called a Dazer to point (discretely - in your pocket) towards nuisance dogs who follow and threaten your dog when out on walks. Some sound that dogs hate but we cannot hear it. You can buy one to put on outside of your house and directed at their yard, under the eaves I suppose but operates with battery all the time - may be able to shut up the noisy one who wants to monster your dog.
One for crazy teenagers would be good too - before here the little ratbags would pick all their unripened lemons and pelt them into my yard - on the roof, at the animals, so I know what that is like. After years of this, I took one aside and carefully told him how to behave as a good neighbor.
Wow..... no more stones thrown at my car, animals, roof, empty food cans, cooked bones. But young lads painting my place said he was in big trouble with the police once he started to drive - the parents never stopped screaming at them - I thought , how could these children not end up in trouble, Such a shame to see parents who seem to create these lost kids.
Anyway it Sure works on my dog when shes got to stay safe - she just sees it in my hand and comes immediately into the house. Only ever pressed the button once or twice - she hates it. She is a persistent little hunter who is into everything - things that could hurt her. So it helps keep things calm - she is really a great little animal, super intelligent but hunters are bred to be workers and are only doing what comes naturally.
We soldier on - do the cleaning thing too - but then everything just gets covered again once I mow the dusty yard - or start carrying wood into the house to keep us warm for months at an end. Then all smoke invades us from chimneys - depending on which way the wind is blowing. Oh well.
Hope you find some peace and quiet. Thanks for your reply.
I've been meaning to say thank you, everybody, for your kind words and good thoughts coming my way. I'm feeling much better and more peaceful. The weekend was straight out of the Murphy's law playbook! While the car still doen't work I was able to retrieve my wallet. I left is at the supermarket after a busy morning. Everything was still there down to the last penny. Sometimes we're still protected even if we don't pay attention :-) Although a crazy weekend I again have been touched by people's kindness and sincerity!
Timo, thank you for the wonderful morning song. The stillness and clarity is certainly the way to go here. I read Tolle's book years ago and I need to return to his teachings again. There is plenty to figure out right now in my life and decisions are better made from a peaceful mind that can rest in the moment (yes, grounding housework!).
Hey, and kittycat & Gigi, good luck with your neighbors from hell. I had a couple of them myself. I hope they move on fast...
Well, I'm sorely missing R1. I can't find where, but I'd swear she wrote she was going on a long road trip. That can be taken literally or symbolically. Given her intelligence and vitality, I imagine her in a hazmat suit in Africa investigating a virus or bundled up in Antarctica checking out ice flows. Then, I consider maybe she's on a personal journey. I've been sending prayers her way. She said she'd come back. It looks like she's been gone four weeks now, and I just miss her popping up everywhere on-site.