@lowtide Yes, she was. She would look for hits and post them before she got to ill. This community gave her hope and strength. Deb was so grateful to all of you, you made her light shine even brighter. She loved you all.
@mtgal99 I also recognized your sister's name from our community. She was a long-time member. I was about to email you to ask if she was the same Deborah Carey on our site when I noticed @lowtide's email to you and your response. I cherished her presence here and am sad about her loss, both for you and for all of us. She was a quiet, wise, compassionate presence for us all. Her generosity will live on in our hearts and, of course, in yours. She has much to teach us, and I pray your pain will cause you to rise to a greater luminous state of connection with all of life and with those who have passed yet still bless us with their love.
Tagging @cindy who has given us so much love and wisdom from her loss.
@mtgal99, I am very sorry to hear of the passing of your beloved sister and friend, @deborah-carey. May her memory be a source of comfort, peace and strength to you and your family.
We were blessed the day Deborah chose to become a member of our Forum community. She was a wise and compassionate soul – eyes wide open to all of the challenges we face, yet she always looked at the bright side of life. In her honor, I would like to share some words of wisdom she posted in past years:
Posted by @deborah-carey:
Today I thought .. perhaps some wisdom from Mr. Twain ...
I do not fear death. I had been dead for billions and billions of years before I was born and had not suffered the slightest inconvenience from it. – Mark Twain
Give every day the chance to become the most beautiful of your life. – Mark Twain
Worrying is like paying a debt you do not owe. – Mark Twain
Posted by @deborah-carey:
I thought a few Gandhi quotes might help the overall mood and good humor of our somewhat tense group.
You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is like an ocean: if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty – Gandhi
In a gentle way you can shake the world – Mahatma Gandhi
You must be the change you wish to see in the world. - Mahatma Gandhi
First, they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win. – Gandhi
love to all
Posted by @deborah-carey:
Remember that all through history there have been tyrants and murderers, and for a time, they seem invincible. But in the end, they always fall. Always. -- Mahatma Gandhi
Thank you, Deborah. Your light will shine on through the love you shared with others.
Dear @mtgal99, I didn't realize you and Deborah Carey of our community were sisters. I hope you are okay that I am reposting your sister's plea to our community 11 months ago asking for healing for you in the event that she passed. I looked up her post this morning and it is as if she is reaching out to us from the other side asking us to comfort you, her dear beloved sister.
A while back I was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer, the first chemo treatment were a bust and damn near killed me, but for the last 2 months I have been on a new treatment plan of immunotherapy and a chemo that I seem to tolerate well. My CEA # have gone from 50 down to 8, but have started to creep back up to 10. I do not fear death, I know a lot of people on the other side of this vail, both family and friends.. But a worry for my sister mtgal99 who lives with me. We have taken this journey through life together, and I cannot imagine doing this without her. I have been hesitant to ask for your help, but as time moves on, I sincerely ask for prayers for my sister who I fear I will leave all alone all to soon.. I love her as much as anyone can love another person, and we have shared many lives together. We will meet again, of this I am quite certain. So my prayer for her is to make this next transition as graceful as possible, and if it's possible, this loving community can keep her in your prayers so she won't be quite so lonely. Thank you all from the bottom of my sole.. until we meet again..
Reaching out to our community to send angels, healing, and comfort to you, @mtgal99.
Praying you will rise from this pain to a greater awareness of the love in this world, both here and in the beyond.
@mtgal99 I’m terribly sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved sister and have been reading the @deborah-carey posts sited here. Deborah must have been even more extraordinary in person. First of all, this life is not all there is and I see that Deborah referenced that by stating that you two have lived many lives together. I received that same message from spirit about me and my sister and it has brought me to a deeper understanding of life and the mysteries of it.
Secondly, my intuitive thoughts went immediately to my grandmother who lost her own sister and grieved deeply for her. My grandmother was intuitive as I believe most people are. In fact, many people drawn to this site are recognizing their own intuitive abilities. I suspect my grandmother’s intuition played a role in what happened after her sister passed. Some time later, my grandmother felt a hand on her shoulder and heard her sister’s voice say, “I am okay.” That beautiful message brought my grandmother tremendous comfort.
I bring that up, because I do believe you will receive some communication from your Deborah. I don’t know how or when, but you will know it and you will recognize her presence when it happens. Love that binds us together in life does not end in one’s death. The bond is still there.
I am sending you love and sending you peace of mind. May you learn to dwell on gratitude for the life you shared with your sister, gratitude for the good times and the bad, gratitude for the laughter and the sorrow. May you find extraordinary peace in the days and weeks ahead.
Dear @mtgal99, I remember when your sister posted asking for our support of you in her hour of need. Her worries weren't for herself as much as they were for you, and what weight you would feel upon her passing. That in itself shows how much she loved and trusted you, not to mention how much she worries about you (yes, that's still current tense-because it's still true). I'm sorry for your loss, and the journey you find yourself on. While the path of grief is not easy or pleasant, it is something we have to face head on. That doesn't mean we have to submerge ourselves in it 24 - 7 for the rest of our time here. It means you have to go through it at your own pace, in your own way. Running or avoiding it is ultimately worse for us in the long run. I've seen people run and ruin their lives.
Right now, the pain is fresh and overwhelming. Breathe and take it one moment at a time. Know that your sister isn't here physically, but she's ok and adjusting on the other side. For some, it can take quite a while to let us know they are there and are looking in on us. The timing is based on not just the deceased, but on those here as well. If you are crying your eyes out, your sister may well be there holding your hand, or patting your shoulder, and your overwhelming emotions won't let you feel her presence. That's ok. She's still there, comforting you and trying to ease your pain. Sometimes they need to wait to let us feel them until a time when they feel assured that we won't use that comfort as a crutch-constantly calling for them hoping they will ease our grief. They can comfort us, but it's our job to handle our own grief and learn our lessons from it. The reason it feels so overwhelming is that the greater the love, the greater the grief. If we hadn't loved them so much, it wouldn't hurt so much. The good news is that we can work our way through the grief and still keep all the love we had, and will always have, for them (and from them).
Don't be afraid to talk to her. She'll listen. It may take time for you to hear her answers, but that too is ok. At first, you may not even realize she's answering. When in need, ask yourself how she'd answer the question, or resolve the situation. Your heart will answer, and you'll eventually realize that she's providing the answers you're "imagining." You can still tell her everything-the good, the funny, the worries, the doubts. You won't always get an answer, because sometimes we need to solve our own issues for our life lessons, and the other side won't get in the way. If we really need them, if we're going astray, they'll make themselves known and aide us. Sometimes they just unexpectedly show up in our dreams, or send us signs, just to say Hi, or I love you. Those messages are just the topping on the desert-totally unexpected, but thoroughly enjoyed.
Remember that grief comes in waves. There's a big emotional storm at the time of someone's passing. The waves are huge, scary, and close together. The storm eventually eases, and the time between waves lessens, as do the size and intensity of the waves. We think we're doing better. Then the smallest of things may set us off out of nowhere. This too is normal. This too will ease with time. You never truly get over grief, you learn how to cope over time. If you are one of the open-minded (which you and your sister both are-being members here is a testament to that), you'll accept that while you don't see her day to day, she's still there for you. You'll accept that you two can still communicate, but it will be lopsided. She can hear all of what you communicate to her, but you'll only get a small reciprocation. This too will be ok. Even hearing from them once in dreams, via mediumship (yours or someone else's), or signs will tell you that they are ok. That alone is a huge milestone, and will make you feel so much better. Remember that knowing she's ok is one thing, but you'll still have to deal with missing her. Sometimes you don't see them, or hear them, but just feel them. Don't doubt what you're feeling. Sometimes it feels like wishful thinking, but does it really matter if it is real or wishful thinking if it helps to heal you? I say this just because your sister will also have work to do where she's at. Sometimes it may be your guides or someone else on the other side helping to pass along the message, but that won't make it any less a message, now, will it? Sometimes when we feel that we are engaging in wishful thinking, it's because we don't 'feel' our loved ones at the time of the message delivery, so we mistakenly disregard the message. It's akin to passing notes in school. Did it really matter who delivered the paper, or was the message inside from the author more important? Cherish every message. Answer them every time. Say hi whenever you think of them. The bond isn't broken, it's just communication has taken a new form.
Remember to take care of yourself. Your life goes on, and your sister would want you to enjoy it for both of you. When things are overwhelming or confusing, ask for clarity from your guides, your sister, from your deity (if you have one), or from those of us here. Many of us here have suffered loss, and we're still here, and in good form (most of the time).
@mtgal99 I can see Archangel Raphael with you, his marvelous Wings enfolding you. I am sure you know how welcomed your sister was, and that once in Spirit, our loved ones can come to us as we need. I love the thought that someone else typed, that Coyote must be with her! This community is so powerful that of course we will stay connected even when we have to let go of the physical. There is a song called Anthem from the Broadway show Chess with a line that helped me enormously when my husband made his transition. He sent a message for me to listen to this song for he knew I had loved it for years, but he knew way more than I knew because nothing prepared me for hearing one particular line in it in a new deeply personal comforting way. The lyric is: "I crossed over borders but I'm still there now." May the Wings of the angels hold you steady and lift you through your sorrow to the celebration of her transition. Blessings ❤️
@mtgal99 I was just reading your posts and wondered if Kim Carey is also a sister, she mentioned recently they'd lost a dear family member to cancer, I thought she'd said a sister. I'm very sorry for your loss. So many have said wonderful things and I echo all their sentiments. 🙏🕊️
Hey guys,
I know that I haven’t posted much in the past few months. I have been fighting the town, trying to protect a piece of land that they are selling to an industrial developer.
I have been to meeting after meeting about this. I had so many people standing up and telling the town to leave it be. The town council did not care. I was even able to show a 14.8 million dollar property value loss for surrounding taxpayers. They still voted to sell the property for 2.2 million dollars.
it was rigged before we ever even walked through the doors.
now I am heartbroken. I feel as if I have let the community down. I feel as if I failed the tree and animal spirits that live on the land. I have spent much of the day in tears with my heart being torn asunder.
Everyone keeps telling me I did a wonderful thing. I spoke up for those who would be silenced. I gave hope to neighbors with no voice. But I feel as if I have let them all down.
I realize I am grieving right now and eventually light will shine again. But I can’t see anything but the heartbreak right now.
thanks for listening.
Update: I spoke to my doctor yesterday. She refilled the muscle relaxer and referred me to spine specialist next Monday. I had another round of emergency room-level pain today, and came away with a Toradol shot (that barely worked), lidocaine patches, and three-times higher dosage of Gabapentin. I also now have muscle spasms of random strength and duration in my right arm that almost look like Parkinson's when they happen. Surgery seems to me to be both imminent and unavoidable. Good thoughts/healing energy/prayers welcomed if you're so inclined. 🙃
The Serenity Prayer comes to mind. You tried. This was grossly unfair.. Your actions still uplifted all you tried to help.
.Your sorrow is earned and shows the depth of your love and caring. You did your best and that is all anyone can do. In these trying times, you tried. I am proud of you.
I hope you are proud of yourself for both your efforts and caring. Maybe you have already done this but two environmental organizations that might offer some guidance, are the Sierra Club, who sued and sued successfully to prevent coal fired power plants from being build, and the Nature Conservancy which buys land in order to preserve it. It may be too late but at this point suing someone, town council or whomever is probably the only next step. It would take a big player to pull this off.
One would like to see the bank balances of the council members after the vote to sell; one could imagine them plumper.
Oh, and find out what negative consequences the industrial site will generate; you might find a ally that way. Will it threaten farms? Water quality? Birds? The Audubon Society could be another potential source of help. Organizations have fought these battles before so maybe one or more would be interested.
Are you in Florida? If so, rough spot to look for honest dealings, I hear, especially around development. Carl Hiaasen is an author and conservationist who cares passionately about Florida and has written novels about corruption there. See if you can find him; he will know the ropes. Are there investigative journalists who would be willing to look into the sway of the developer?
Anyway, just ideas...bless your warrior spirit.
@raincloud our entire argument was the negative impacts on the surrounding community. We were able to show that the negatives definitely outweighed the positives. They ignored everybody. They didn’t even factor anything in other than their presentation (because the town, not the developer was the rezoning applicant).
So many dealing with pain and grief. My heart hurts for all of you. I took great comfort in reading Cindy's most recent reply on this subject, as my husband Greg, passed on Sunday morning after a battle with Leukemia. It is all too fresh, and it is just plain weird to be in this situation. Praying that when it all sinks in, I am able to hold it together.
Thank you for being here.
Pat