Thank you for this thread. Seeing that word, stuck, and allowing myself to acknowledge the degree of my feeling stuck, has been very helpful.
Yesterday I made a conscious decision to be happy. No matter what certain people do or think, or say, or don't, I am deciding to embrace my future. I am deciding to let go of the guilt, let go of the disappointment. I am certain that I will have spiritual amnesia again at some point, and pick it back up, as we do, but I pray and set the intention to recognize and course correct even faster.
After all, we are doing this dance here for just a blink in eternity. All i can do is allow myself to feel the joy being offered, while forgiving and moving past the grace denied, and the awkward disequilibrium of trying to figure out challenging people. I am giving up, I am giving it over to G-d and the Angels and asking them to remove the weightiness, and the deep sadness. To guide me in understanding and growing in compassion. They say the hardest apology to accept is the one you never receive. But there is love still and maybe angels will sit with me when I feel stuck again.
To explain better, this is kind of a nature/pagan way to look at things, but in the 90s a book called 'The Secret' became a best-seller and basically used those ideas. If you're interested in inspirational documentaries, there is one about that 'Secret', which might help.
I read "The Secret" a while back--- I think there is a part of the manifestation process that it misses or at least doesn't sufficiently emphasize. I've seen people almost literally drive themselves nuts wondering why praying and praying and visualizing and visualizing -- one family member has been doing this for YEARS-- with no results. Still stuck. Dead-ended into a brick wall. And in the case of this family member, I know exactly why.
What some people miss is that first, the "manifestor" needs to be in a certain harmony with the universe. Only then will their desires and wishes line up with the cosmic flow, so to speak. This leads into the Zen philosophy of accepting what *is* and coming to peace with it. (Eckhart Tolle gives an example of saying for instance, you don't have to like changing a flat tire in the middle of the night in the rain, but you can peacefully accept the necessity instead of cursing and grumping and letting it ruin the rest of your evening.)
Once you are at peace with the universe, things can begin to fall into place and what you *want* starts to line up with what you really *need*.
If my family member got what they think they want-- they would not be able to manage it. A scaled-back version coupled with a reality check and the acceptance of the necessity of hard work would be more realistic, but this person will not budge. So they sit--- stuck , unhappy, and frustrated with God. It's tragic.
100% feel this thread. Professionally and in my volunteer exploits I've been feeling like I've been spinning my wheels for well over a year now, but it's really come to a head in the last few weeks. I thought it was just me (and the cliche of a mid-life crisis since -- I'm at the age where every sitcom dad buys that expensive sports car before having a valuable hug and learn moment with his family.)
@ana oh yes I agree, which is why I said it isn't that black and white. It shouldn't be praying though. It literally is focusing on a goal and trying to make it happen by doing stuff about it. Just sitting and hoping isn't enough;-)
I am a strong believer in positive thoughts. Something Jeanne also practices with her circle for example. If you combine that with actively trying to change the aspect of your life you're not happy about you can get things done most of the time. Believe -> goal/motivation/dream -> do/action. Good vibrations as always. ❤️
@ana It shouldn't be praying though. It literally is focusing on a goal and trying to make it happen by doing stuff about it. Just sitting and hoping isn't enough;-)
Yes, true, one needs to take action as well--- but what I wanted to point out was that it's not just the thinking, or even the action, but that the intent needs to be in right alignment with the universe. I've found myself working hard towards goals and getting nowhere until I take a step back and accept a situation--- almost inevitably something new or better comes along.
@ana, true but the universe has a habit of pushing you in the right direction. From 'bad' situations a way can open to something good and such. I think we're talking about the same thing, but just using different words;-)
I'm so glad I popped in today ... so glad to see I'm not alone in whatever this feeling is right now. The past few weeks have been horrible - stress, sadness, anger, fatigue, horror, you name it. I'm in the Minneapolis area, so what is happening here has about push me too far. For the past four years, I've learned that Minnesota Nice really only goes so far, and the boundary starts at nativism and racism. I'll read a news article about the Chauvin trial or poor Daunte Wright, and the comments literally break my heart. Then I see on local groups similar comments, and I think ... this is what my neighbors are? This is how they think and what they believe?
They present so ... I mean ... okay: they present "typical" - white, small-town, Christian, bless-your-heart/I'll-pray-for-you garbage, then they leave a comment filled with hate and racism and zero self-awareness. It's been too much. I've never wanted to move away so badly in my life.
All of this has just sat on me for weeks. Thank goodness the fascist goldfish is gone, because I couldn't take that, too. Can't even look at his face if it pops up. But the hate and the racism ... it's breaking me down.
I even told my husband last week that there must be something big and heavy in the universe, because I literally couldn't rest or find peace anywhere.
So it's not just me, eh? Thank you all for being here.
I am so sorry Saibh. No, it is not just you. I am sure the energy where you live is quit heavy right now as well. I wish lites like you mentioned would turn off their comment sections, the do more harm than good. I feel they are far more people who are caring and have or at least are in the process of opening their eyes. I don't think they want to comment however. I know I don't want to open myself up for attack. Even the comments on the Nextdoor site for my area can get really mean. Why does someone need to get angry at a person who is positing about their lost dog. Good grief! How is yelling at her for forgetting to close the gate going to help?
You need to hang out here more often so you can feel supported and know there are other like minded and helpful people in the world. That you are not alone.
Welcome back. ?
I can concur with a lot of what has been said about this feeling of being stuck.
From January to now I have felt as though no progress has been made or going to be made with my life. Everything blocked and completely stuck. Many times I have been questioning my path, my decisions, all because of the lack of progress. This has been both good and bad because I can evaluate areas that need work and others that should be left alone. Many ups and downs.
Currently, health wise, it is definitely a stuck feeling. I did a tarot reading a month ago and I got the hanged man card as the card/energy going against me - which someone said here could be interpreted as being stuck and this has definitely been the case.
@saibh I usually do not post as so many times feel like my comments are off during this time of transistion. Your post hit me in the heart as I too live in Minnesota but farther North....am a transplant for 3 decades. It just has been so difficult these past 10 years wanting to move but my husband is now in mid stages of Alzheimers and his only caretaker. Have reteated into a state of disassociation from the clannish and mean behaviors around me. Finding joy in the simple things keeps me sane from not fitting in. Blessings to you all. Is there something in the water here?