Big hug of understanding!
My three children were/are all sensitives. It's a challenging road learning how to balance that with all of the emotions and challenges and fears of the world and in their own smaller world of relationships and school worries and all the rest of it.
When my youngest was still young like your sweet daughter, she had a hard time falling asleep even with all of the getting ready pattern of talking about her day and what her favorite part and shared reading aloud to or with each child in each of their rooms to wind down etc
I learned that the magic for her was healing touch gentle backrubs/chakra balancing kind of thing. I found small circling movements slowly spiraling up the spine was absolutely magical for her.
We did this last thing each night and again if something woke her up in the night and it released and relaxed and she was off to dreamland or so relaxed she was almost there and could just get manage a soft goodnight before I gently left.
Many good thoughts, gentle energies and love to both of you as you navigate these meaningful years of her growing up with so many things to think about and learn to work with that most of us did not have to deal in quite the same ways. ?
Thank you so much! I really appreciate the suggestion. I will try that. We just did a chakra meditation in Jeanne’s class last week.
Both of my girls are sensitive, but my older daughter seems a bit more resilient and able to busy herself with things to do (even if we talk now and again about what we are missing...) My younger, though, has such a hard time when she can’t think of what to do next and all the things she was pushing away come back into her mind. This is the same child, though, who would ask me the deepest questions when she was young (4 or so) and have a look of abject despair on her face (why are we even here? What is the point of it all?) Lots of reassurance and positive talk needed, but I think that philosophical angst has returned during COVID. I was emphasizing to her that this is temporary...and will be talking to her about my grandparents (who were immigrants from what is now western Ukraine) and the hardships they faced and recovered from. I am actually also looking to get her a pen pal match with an older person to (a friend recommended an organization) to share and communicate with. Might help with some perspective. All their grandparents are gone already (my Mom was the only one they really knew and she passed a little over a year ago.) Lots to absorb and adjust to, esp for a sensitive kid (as it sounds like you know, having raised ones yourself!)
Perfect! You've got a plan! I love it!
The family stories are a phenomenal idea and truly where we are all heading and what we will all be doing in this new world where we are creating our own trails and tales as we wind our way through new lands and new discoveries. We call upon the ancestors for guidance and upon our highest selves for strength and inspiration and we can all find ways and problem solve just as you are doing now ?
Will be thinking of you and sending very best and highest thoughts!
@michele-b thanks for your great story and good wishes. My friend wrote back - apparently this horror post was from a woman she plays "slots" with, and the people who responded are all "slots" players. I said, get rid of all of them. She said she didn't remember sharing it. She was really upset, the poor thing. She is a good woman and very sweet. She is constantly sending me IM videos that I don't watch - I think they may be from the slots people as well. She needs a new game.
Just love you woman and sending bunches of good energies your way.
I run too hot/too cold. My husband says my tolerance range is about 2 degrees. Ha! He's being far too nice and generous. It's more like 1 degree.
The rest you're right on top of, saying it, nailing it and building an ark for the future. Keep it up when the rains hit we'll need it ?
We're all working hard on The Great Unraveling on this planet but it needs a lot to get to The Great Turning and we're all doing it one moment at a time ?
But it's a bit like saying goodbye to childhood, as you step into adulthood.
As a globalized modern culture, we don't really practice initiation from youth into adulthood. Usually, initiation is brought about when a young person comes as close to death, physically or mentally, without actually falling into the abyss. In the process, they leave their child mind behind and mature (Vestralux helped me understand this). I think this wild epoch we're living through now is one big initiation for humanity (and who knows, Gaia too maybe). So I think the fact that we're feeling this loss and grief is healthy. It's a sign of growth.
One thing you can do to aid this process is find a way to ceremonially release all that you're being called to say goodbye to, which will help make space for what comes next. Ceremonial release can take the form of simply finding a quiet place outdoors and asking your spirit guides for help letting things go (which is what I've been doing). I think this ceremonial release will work best if it's done repeatedly over the course of days, weeks, or even months.
All's well that ends well ? Especially if she becomes a "game changer".
When we're lonely sometimes our friends and things we choose to do are based on what "feeds" our needs when what we truly need is nurturing and nourishing.
I have a sweet friend so very similar. She constantly sends me "warnings' about this or that. In her heart I think its very important to her that shows me how much I mean to her and that she wants to help keep me "safe" by all the forwards she gets from others.
Unfortunately it takes a few seconds to discover they are all "false" i.e "fake" as checked by Snopes. So i end up responding with snopes check response after another. Then it feels like a put down in a way so I always add something nice to buffer it and she handles it surprisingly well.
She's my reminder that our circle of friends and close acquaintances can be and see things very differently from how we might or do and so try to give to her what she sees as giving to me.
I'm the one that send "her" videos. Haha. She loves inspirational things, animals, and teddy bears, and the popular dancing shows.
By keeping an eye out for uplifting, funny or cute videos and taking a moment to send one off when I'm thinking of her, all of the forwards from her have all but stopped.
I took a turn in her direction with a little twirling flourish and the lift was just what she really needed from me.
She loves them and is uplifted and then she also has something she can send to her circle but something more positive and happy.
I love how we all can care for and enjoy others with different understanding of almost everything but we still connect to kindness and good hearted qualities that are always truly inside.
Loneliness and depression and addictions all masks such a need for love and connection with others. As the Alcoholics Anonymous founder has said when people go looking for a bottle of an alcoholic beverage its no wonder why alcohol is call "spirits".
It's the deepest spiritual essence of love and connection that unites and nourishes us all as nurturing our good spirits instead of cranky, sad or craving things to excess.
Sigh. Guess i should have meditated instead of medicated with that vanilla pecan carmel (Tillamook) ice cream cone I just ate. ?
That is exactly how I feel. My entire life has prepared me for these challenges upon challenges now.
We are truly here for a reason and especially during these times. We are absolutely here for a purpose and we call in more and more of us to join us now.
I am de-lighted you are here with us Joey ?
Welcome Joeym! You struck something within me - I've asked myself and God most of my life, "what is my purpose for being here?" in various ways over the years. I'm about 6-7 years away from being able to retire in age. When I joined this forum a few years ago, and we had this once in a lifetime pandemic, national divide, democracy endangerment, massive cultural shifts, global climate crisis, etc., I too realized perhaps I may not be someone instrumentally significant to our world but that my role was to just be a light worker and help those few I can touch with this difficult period.
Each day I notice more and more like yourself joining and posting. It feels wonderful to be here - with all of you. ? ?