@allyn, I agree with @Jeanne and @billy-mike. I have dealt with narcissists all my life. This is classic gas-lighting as Jeanne says. As @lawrence has said, Karma is coming for all of them. I've seen and watched it catch up to too many that I've known, and I've always felt it coming. It's coming sooner then they expect. The best way to deal with a narcissist (or their minions) is not to buy into what they're peddling. They say one thing but change what they say, remember, what you or they did, etc., more frequently than Cher changes costumes in an hour long show.
I've told my stories here for years now. I won't write another book here (I'm verbose & working on it). But in another thread the other day, I have yet again given my views on some of of the lessons I've learned, which relates to our current situation. I also noted this morning that I wondered if they'd vote and not send it to the Senate. I'm hearing rumors of it this evening, and I hadn't realized that it's something that Harvard's Laurence Tribe had been advocating-even tho I sporadically read his twitter feed. The fat lady hasn't even started warming up, much less sing.
Keep in mind when you hear such rantings that they are as sick and unhinged as the letter to Pelosi was yesterday. Keep in mind that when all is said and done, these sound bites will be played over and over in the ads of their political opponents in their next election-if they dare run, knowing what they said will come back to haunt them.
Send light and love to all-especially the heroes backing impeachment, and even those who are trying to block it (as light will always penetrate the darkness). Don't forget to do so for yourself as well, to help block out the negative that's out there trying to get you down.
Although this thread is called "The Unraveling of D* T*, I found myself unraveling a bit today. This afternoon I was in my favorite local drug store. My husband has a terrible respiratory bug, I'm fighting one, and I was feeling generally weary, with some holiday blues thrown in. While waiting for my turn in line, I saw that they were selling MAGA hats at the very front of the checkout counter. I live in a very blue county of a light blue state (Virginia), so until now, I've had the luxury of encountering very little pro-T**** support. I can't imagine what it's like to be living in a red state and dealing with that daily mindset.
I was really taken aback by this pharmacy's decision to sell the hats. Needless to say, I've been living in a fool's paradise. I don't believe it was a coincidence that I had to wait an inordinate amount of time while the guy in front of me made a series of purchases (prescription, tobacco, lottery tickets, etc.). Waiting in that line forced me look at the hats and what they represented. And more importantly, to deal with my feelings. Each time I looked at those hats, it pissed me off. I was still mad when I got into my car. As I drove home through a residential area, I noticed an aggressive driver behind me who was driving so close, that I could practically see his nose hairs. I uttered a few unkind words under my breath.
After I arrived home, I was getting ready to wrap some gifts and noticed a little card I had picked up while I was on vacation in October. Until that moment, I'd forgotten about that card. The card didn't state the source, but I want to thank the author for these words:
You cannot hate, argue, reason, fight, complain or yell at a dark room enough to illuminate it. Only by shining a light is darkness overcome. Be that light.
Jennifer Rubin at Washington Post:
"The good news is every one of these R's is blowing up his/her career and permanently destroying his/her reputation. The GOP will need to start anew after this. Or not, and become utterly irrelevant."
I was married to a narcissist for many years. And like many here, I cannot make myself watch the hearings, listen to the rhetoric, etc. nor can I listen to Dump and his hysterics. The gaslighting is all too familiar, as are the lack of responsibility, the projection, and the blame. I love what Rep. Ted Lieu said here; "Whether _____ leaves in one year or five years, this impeachment is permanent. It will follow him around for the rest of his life and history books will record it. And people will know why we impeached ― it’s all very simple: No one is above the law.”
I believe what Lawrence said above about collective karma - it is coming and they will all fall very hard. They will be on the record for doing this and they will pay for it in due time. In the meanwhile, I am limiting what I listen to so I can keep myself calm and send light-workers strength and resolve.
Hmmm, a sudden snow squall covers New York in 0.4 inches of snow this afternoon. I wonder if this is connected with the impeachment of Donald John Trump (a few hours later). What is the universe saying to us?
https://www.cnn.com/2019/12/18/weather/new-york-snow-squall-wxc/index.html
@jeanne-mayell , loved your words of wisdom today. Thank You.
@Cindy , thank you once again for your always thoughtful reflections.
@billy-mike , For me, disengaging takes mindful practice. I am so used to be "consciously" engaged that the thought of disengagement seems contrary to what I should be doing to remain a well informed person. I have had to wrestle with what my perception of disengagement means. I now appreciate Jeanne's quiet but persistent rhymitnic drum beat to disengage" and why it is important. It doesn't mean to live in a bubble or false utopia.
@deetoo, loved your story and your quote, thanks for sharing it.
-Ben Shaprio ( A very conservative columnist whom I had never heard of until today) wrote this:
Things this impeachment is not like:
The crucifixion of Jesus
The Salem Witch Trials
Pearl Harbor
Things this impeachment is like:
An impeachment
Today on this singular thought I find commonality with a conservative columnist.
I think...(actually I am thinking a whole bunch of things right now, most of which I really can't articulate and those I can, probably shouldn't be articulated right now so...I am a bit stuck)
Someone once told me the opposite of love is not hate, it is fear. The older and wiser I get, the more I view this statement to be accurate. Love is light. Fear isn't. I choose light.
Wow! It looks like they approved the articles of impeachment. Despite whatever may come in the Senate, it does my heart good to know that the president will be held accountable for some of his behavior and that congress believed in the rule of law. I also agree with @Lawrence ‘s post with the quote saying that those who have voted against impeachment will have ruined their careers. I think I predicted that something big would happen regarding the impeachment on the 18th and I guess we got that. I also kept seeing Nancy Pelosi with her hand raised and could never figure out if she was being sworn in or what she was doing. Earlier during the hearing, she raised her hand and said the Pledge of Allegiance. I think that probably was it. Interesting how these things work!
I think there is more unraveling going on than just DJT. Saw this from Sarah Kenzidor on Twitter. I have long suspected the Russia collusion involved many more politicians. I think we will be seeing a lot more coming to light. Here’s the link to the tweet but basically gop rep Kevin McCarthy was paid by Giuliani henchman Lev Parnas- who has ties to a Russian oligarch. I’m sure he isn’t the only one.
https://twitter.com/sarahkendzior/status/1207463977602695169?s=21