Ok also trying to remind myself Jeanne said I had an eject button but wouldn’t need it. I appreciate the good thoughts and the light everyone!
Having the ability to use an "ejection button" is sooooo powerful. Glad you know you have one, even if you never decide to use it.
Wishing you all the best. School is almost over this year and I bet you can't wait for a long, well deserved break.
So much good advice.
As a fellow educator, who is a specialist and highly effective...here is my experience.
The more you excel, the more some people may try to pin you down, finding fault real or imagined.
These challenging people dwell in jealousy. There is no upside to that.
However, you can do some things. Keep it short and simple when asked a question. Keep it to yourself, meaning don't draw attention. If you can fake defencerence do so. But keep your cards close to your chest. Give her nothing to go on.
If conflict arises quote articles. Make it about information. Take your opinion out of the discussion if possible.
You know you are great and she does too.She. probably has siblings who are like you that she resents or bullies.
You have a union behind you if it is untenable. They are your eject button I think. Remember unions protect educators.
Oh my I am late to the party!!! Dannyboy I have been thinking of you all day long but I promised myself I would finish my chores before I walked into the Forum. (I am oldER and slow so it took all day!) I have to say I concur with what everyone else has said: Burn that candle (what a great process Lynn!) I also like @journeywithme2's suggestion of the name on a slip of paper and freeze it. I can add a variation to that is to put the nameslip of paper in sea salt and set it in the sun (or moonlight). You can also use what Spiritualists call the Violet Fire or Violet Flame to transmute stuff in the etheric if for some reason an actual candle is not safe. Just imagine a giant violet Flame atop a brilliantly White candle and place the situation in the flame. You can also, since the Violet Fire does not burn anyone, actually stand in the fire yourself and transmute your own frustrations and angers that arise with all the absurdity of this woman's actions. Or throw the rock of fear into the dove of peace from the meditation I put in the other thread (thank you @lowtide and @lovendures for the kind words about the meditation)
OK. Now.Spirit has messages for you.
I have with me a Master Healer I have worked with for many many years. He first came to my husband who was learning Shiatsu at the time. Dr. Gin (yeah, that's the name he gave us 30+ years ago) said he wanted me to find a crystal or stone to represent him and when he wanted to invite someone to work with him a Readee would pick that stone. Well. That stone (in mind not literally this time) has been with me all day, along with dear Dr. Gin. He shows himself to me as Asian, about five feet tall. He wears the most glorious robes, white silk robes that are so completely embroidered in a plethora of colors and shapes that only because the whiteness of the silk radiates Light do you even know there is white holding the colors. Now that is how is always shows himself to me. He may show himself to you in another way, do not restrict yourself to my visual. The thing about Dr. Gin is that 1) he is a Master Teacher of Healing and 2) his modality is Shiatsu, the energy flows of the body HOWEVER, his process is LAUGHTER. Yes, Shiatsu is all about touch and energy work on the body but he has always insisted to me that actual healing comes from laughter, joy, giggles. He very much wants to work with you, if you are willing to work with him. The situation of the unkind lady is already in his healing hands. His invitation is for beyond the situation with this woman. All you have to do is say yes or no. (to him not me!!!) He says she is jealous of you. Jealousy is the fear of not being good enough or the fear of not being as good as....so he is enveloping her in the Creator's Love with ribbons of joy threaded through it. She of course, can choose to accept or reject healing, but the sending is always there. You do not have to learn Shiatsu! It is your laughter, your (excuse me) wise-assery sense of humor, and your love of education/teaching that drew him to you. He is a marvelous Teacher, ancient in wisdom, and as Young as the Dawn each morning. The twinkle in his eye is mischievous. His healing art is infinite. If there are times when you cannot find it in yourself to think even neutral thoughts toward this woman, send them instead to Dr. Gin and he will transmute them and send healing to her for you.
As a giggle, to me he just said, look up "Gin" The "drink?" I answer "yes, it is after all a 'spirit'" he chuckled. I rolled my eyes but I looked up Gin (I am not a drinker) and it says it is from Juniper Berries. "Look up Juniper Berries," he says, his chuckles deep and warm. I look up Juniper berries. "Natural Antiseptic" dr. GOOGLE says, "removes TOXINS, I read, "may help to improve digestion, aids restful sleep, good for the heart." My mischievous Master Healer taps me on the shoulder: "Do you get it?" he chuckles, "Dannyboy doesn't need juniper berries but he could use ME, Dr. Gin!"
Lordy. I once made a vow that I would not work with ANY entity in spirit who did not have a sense of humor. See what that brought?? I am blessed beyond belief.
Enjoy Dannyboy, Dr. Gin is a real character and a joy to have at your back.
Blessings and Light, Tesseract
PS (because I am NOT doing anymore tonight. You do have a karmic past life connection with the woman.)
@dannyboy im late to the party too but I’m also an educator and I’ve seen a lot of control and power play out and I’m close to the union rep. First people constantly tell her stuff so just let them know so it’s documented- sounds like you have already.
Second, she sounds like a narcissist and having an ex who is one maybe read up a little on it- the internet is full of helpful tips in dealing with them. So, It’s not your trip, it’s hers.
Why do you have to do anything differently- if you wrote I’ve been swamped sorry this is a day late- that’s a nothingburger being twisted into a pretzel to be a problem.
If you have karma with her (or use another word if you want) it’s going to come to a head whether you do nothing or if you do everything in your power to control it or even if you stay up every night worrying about it. Do your job and if something happens ask yourself what opportunity it creates for you, what lesson is the universe offering?
@tesseract I see him clearly when you described him and his grin is … wow. It’s hard not to feel better when he’s smiling at me like that!
We have a black polished stone. I don’t know the type of rock but it’s semi porous. My wife’s grandfather used to polish them and give them to family members. He called them “gillyhoo eggs.” And said they take hundreds of years to hatch but we had to take care of them in the meantime. Not only do I want Dr Gin in my life - when you described the crystal part the Gillyhoo egg was the first thing that sprang to mind and I don't think about that egg/stone often. I’ll hold it or look at it when I need him. (Or think of it if I need him at work)
I wonder what my past karmic connection with my boss is! I don’t get the sense that that part matters quite as much outside of context of the present. Jealousy tracks. She’s drowning in the job. I have three of them on paper and am organized enough to take part or all of most Fridays off in trade time. I’ve offered to help her before and that offer was always denied. When I talked to my union rep about the trade time piece he told me I was in my right to take it (and when I told him I moved some of next years around to not always be a Friday he told me that was generous of me but not required)
this woman is in her mid sixties which is usually when people have left the field already - she chose to work in the charter school world for a good chunk of her career and I think she’s here now for the public pension (she hates unions and I believe is very much a TFG supporter which also makes this situation a little precarious - the union part at least. I love though how she's willing to ride in and take a public pension though which unions fought for.) I think of my own father who died in his 70s without ever retiring and I know that’s not the life for me. I can go in 9 (at the age of 53 because I turn 44 in just a few weeks) - I may stay 10 to get my current student loans for my new degree discharged (I guess that may fuel the jealousy too - I do three jobs at work AND am going back to school full time - I’ll be more “degreed” than her in the end)
But in the mean time I have to MAKE it there so I’ll continue to exercise caution and I’ll continue to try to walk the walk I preach with hat 3 and channel my empathy and compassion like we talk about with SEL. But in nearly 30 years of working every boss I’ve had I’ve never had a conversation like this one.
gillyhoo egg pic attached :-)
Everyone - thank you again. I know that this too (including this boss's time in my work sphere) will pass.
@dannyboy love the gillyhoo egg - it looks like a piece of ancient meteorite or stones evolved from ancient tarpits/volcanoes... it's energy is a "timelessness" and "solid as a rock" steady - giver of strength and endurance to me.
Hugs! You've got this ...Keep shining your special Light... our children need more teachers like you ... so much is being done to erode public education these days. That is one reason she can not vibrate at your level ... she backs the GQP belief of not all deserve an education and indoctrinate not teach those at the lower rungs. You are a warrior teaching students to think, to reason, to feel, to question, to reach out...and so much more. You have many beings of Light supporting you as you do your most vital, needed work.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=dQOaUnSmJr8
I have not been on the Forum much lately, but am catching up on this thread a bit. You have had so much good advice here, @dannyboy ! I am sure all of this happening during the craziness that is May (schoolyear-wise) is additionally stressful. I know you will find your way through it, especially with the additional advice and support you received here.
I loved what @tesseract described about the Violet Fire or Violet Flame. I had not heard of that before and plan to use it myself.
In addition, I would love to ask for some good energy, support, perseverance and clarity for myself and my family regarding two situations. I will be deliberately vague (apologies) as I want to protect some personal info, but 1) we have been dealing with a long-standing set of issues with our younger teenaged daughter and have been bogged down trying to find the right path forward, best solutions, etc. Some helpful solutions have been put into place recently for school, so that is great. But she really needs an internal breakthrough that will allow her to move forward in a better way. 2) the other situation is with a family friend who is undergoing a health crisis that has shifted his way of life moving forward. Much of this has come to a head in the last two weeks and my husband has been helping some mutual friends with the situation. It has been really difficult and just plain draining for everyone involved.
So, with all that has been going on, the Violet Flame transmutation sounds very appealing! And may be very helpful. Any additional clearing, clarity, breakthroughs, or other good energy anyone has to spare would be most welcome. We do have outside professional supports/physicians for both situations, but it does take a toll over time in just plain old stress. Thanks to you all.
Here is what I received about the past life.
Initially I saw a little girl, around eight years old wearing a blue pinafore over a dark brown wool dress. This is not you this is the woman supervisor in your current life. I asked when and where and got Ireland to which I replied, “Oh come on Spirit his username is Danny Boy, really?!! Ireland??!! are you sure this isn’t just me making it up?” (Libra negative, mistrust of self) Smart (yet gentle of course) nudge on the back of the head and “get out of your head and listen please.” So Ireland end of 1700s or early 1800s. I am not a history person so I have no idea what was going on at that time, but it feels uneasy to me. There is a castle or manor, large dwelling at least, that indicates some wealth for this little girl. She looks healthy, but very withdrawn, not scared so much as almost so shy she cannot hold a conversation. So I ask, where the heck is Dannyboy in this picture? In walks a tall, very stern woman in heavy clothing, dreary colors. Dreary face! Ick I say! (and get another scoldy yet loveish knock on the noggin!) This woman is the little girl’s governess and she, the governess, is exceedingly unhappy to be a female and a governess. Unaware of course, but unhappy with the lot of women in general and herself in particular. She wants to be out DOING THINGS and instead she is stuck here TEACHING!!! And the little girl has what in current times we would call dyslexia and is profoundly withdrawn because of her inability to grasp letters and numbers. She can draw beautifully, but does not know how to translate her drawing to communicate let alone to help with reading and numbers. Perhaps she is also somewhere on the autistic scale I wonder? The governess is not cruel by any means, but she has no sympathy because she simply cannot understand not being able to read or do sums.She thinks the little girl is lazy or stupid. Plus, she does NOT want to teach. She wants to be out in the world like her brothers, adventuring and gallivanting but she is a woman and so she has to either be a wife or be a governess.
I believe my dear Dannyboy, you are the marvelous Teacher you are, in part, because of this past life. Many times we do not have any idea about the influence of our past lives until something specific brings it to the surface. I suspect you are teaching because your soul did discover its joys and in this life you are able to not only do many things within the teaching (governing??? Of departments) but you also experience joy and give joy during your teaching. Besides, you are male in this life and don’t have to put up with all that crap that puts boundaries around women even in2023!!!
The little girl in the woman of today remembers the stern dreary indifferent governess and is incensed with you but she doesn’t really know why. Now, she has not been doing well in this life anyway, she has harbored negatives and been too caught up in self-sustaining misery to move into joy even when joy has been made available to her.
We don’t have to work out karma with the person we created it with, but in this case you have been given the opportunity to return negatives with compassion and understanding. All the marvelous techniques and ideas you have been given through this wonderful forum, both literal in the work world and spiritual within the soul, will help you through this. I do not believe she will be in your life for very long. Whether she accepts healing or not is not your responsibility. Your (karmic) responsibility is to, with as much ease and grace as possible, cope with her literal crap while sending her unconditional love and light. Dr.Gin will be there with you for that if the child/woman’s behaviours are too destructive for you to handle on your own.
I think that is all. I am going to go get Dr. Gin’s Oracle Stone and take a picture of it to share and I love that you have a stone to represent him for you. I am writing in Word not at the forum but will look at your Dr.Gin stone when I get to the forum. Thank you for allowing me to dip into your past life, I miss this part of Reading for folks, as I no longer regularly Read (I am immunocompromised) for folks at Fairs or privately in person. Blessings and HUGS! Tesseract
I will be back in a little bit and bring you some links and info on the Violet Flame and my experiences with it.
I love the gillyhoo egg! It looks/FEELS filled with power! I am going to [try to] attach a photo of my Oracle Stones and Dr. Gin's specific stone. We'll see if it works!