Who has more power to hurt us than our children? No one. I'm so sorry that you are in pain. Sometimes there's nothing we can do but let them go their own way, and hope in the future they find their way back to us. Thinking of you, ghandigirl.
@ghandigirl There are times... we have to make decisions that hurt us deeply... like detaching and moving on and leaving loved ones to live life the way they choose. As hard as it is... it is what must be done for one's own mental health and quality of life. Please don't harden your heart.... allow room...to just let the both of you ...just... Be. Just remember.. their life...their choice... and as your child... allow room to breathe and send your Love and prayers for her well being... even from a distance... and honoring boundaries that have been set. Yes... I did this... I learned this the hard way...you can love your children even if they are not in your life. Many years down the road... connection was re-established and boundaries were honored.
@luminous Best wishes to you, there is a lot be said for ordinary things. A coffee and cake and a chat with a friend, a funny movie, a good pub meal. Sitting in the sun and reading a book. Enjoy the here and now as best you can. A good scotch the only “spirit” allowed.
Hope things turn around for you.
Enjoy Christmas with your family
Regards
Matildagirl
May you find peace and joy. May your health improve.
May you find happiness no matter what life throws at you. Know that we will keep you in our hearts and continue to send you healing and love.
It is a difficult time to be in England right now and when adding any personal challenges it must seem over whelming. I am sorry things are difficult right now.
When you are ready to come back, we will be here for you.
May the new year bring many new blessings Luminous.
It is official. My child is not allowing me to visit.
The song Harden My Heart has begun playing loudly in a loop in my head.
To quote Shakespeare: "This is the most unkindest cut of them all."
I prayed for help to detach. Careful What You Wish For. Now I can detach. With anger.
The girl needs therapy. I will never trust her again.
I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine how painful that must be.
@luminous, I am sorry for your health problems. I pray you find peace and improved health and are surrounded with angels on your journey. It sounds like a good idea to take a break.
I can say with certainty that you did not get a reading from any member of our community, including me. There is a way to read people that is healing. Anyone who reads people must do so with great care and discernment. It is equally important for people to be discerning when they choose someone for a reading, and also for any form of counseling or energy healing or any practitioner.
Again, I wish you the best.
I'm sorry if I have gave that impression or caused any offence.
I can clarify to everyone here that my psychic reading was with no-one here or with Jeanne.
Thank you for the support.
See you all next year.
(@Jeanne-mayell: I have emailed you.)
@luminous I am sorry you are facing such difficulties. Know that many here will keep you in their thoughts, prayers & will do whatever we can in our own ways to aid you. I can understand the feelings of not knowing what to believe or to know in which direction to turn. Regardless, try to remain positive. It's one of those odd things that science shows is beneficial, even if they can't fully explain why.
I wish you (& everyone else here) the best holiday season possible.
@luminous Only you can decide where you need to be and what you need to do. Stepping away and seeking your answers in side yourself and in your own heart and soul are what you are looking for.. honor yourself and listen to deepest gut feelings and get out of your head and in to your heart. I pray and ask Creator to connect you clearly with your Highest Self and hold space for you as you make the Journey of Self Discovery. Sending Light and Love as you undertake this Journey.... you do not walk alone... you are supported by Divine Love and Light... the good thing is... We can not get it wrong.. and we all get where we need to be .. in the end.
@luminous Firstly, I am deeply saddened by your suffering and recognize the depth of your despair. Why are our life journeys so difficult? I don’t have that answer, but do know how common failing health can be and how we suffer. Secondly, I keep hearing “darkest before the dawn” and feel that you are close to the dawn in the sense that your feelings of despair and futility will change. I’m not seeing a change physically, but rather a change of feelings. It may seem impossible right now, but there will be a shift, an adjustment in your feelings and you will feel calmer and your mood will brighten. I am praying for you and sending you peace.
Thank you. Tonight has been especially hard. I have to find a way to find a way to cope better. Triggering me and it's not healthy.. Thanks to all who wrote and to the rest who know me here and care. It helps.
Although Luminous might not see this I want to say that I can see how disappointing it is to feel like you have been wrong. And I send my best wishes.
I have really valued the advice given through this community for a long time. I posted last month about my child custody fight with my abusive ex. I got a horary reading that basically said I would lose and he would get what he asked for and that my children felt trapped and anxious. I also spoke with my spirit guide who said the outcome is not determined yet and that this process of standing up and using our voices was the purpose and would strengthen our foundation. In mn the mandatory minimum parenting time is 25% so even though my ex gave me full physical custody in the divorce I am looking at the likelihood that at minimum he will get 25%.
My daughters are scared, one has bad anxiety and has panic attacks before visits and at night when she’s worried about having to have overnights.
my question to the community is how have you learned to accept a difficult scenario like this? There are times during the day when I can let go and accept my powerlessness and I agree it’s time to use my voice to fight. But I’m having a hard time holding it together and not seeing this as a determined outcome. Due to the horary and many examples of women not being able to protect their children in the legal system it’s hard to visualize anything but my kids ending up in harms way. The wisdom of this community is so strong and I would love to hear from anyone who learned to abandon foregone conclusions and find a way to see the three of us celebrating a safe pathway forward.
@jaidy Why not go with the intuitive inner guidance you have received: the outcome is not determined yet and that this process of standing up and using our voices was the purpose and would strengthen our foundation.
Keep taking the next step forward, help your daughters with strategies to alleviate their anxiety and to stay safe during whatever visits are required at present, and keep listening to that inner guidance which feels to me pretty authentic. Sending steadfast strength and love to you and your girls.