If anyone can get a message through from my beloved Dad, who passed two years ago this July, that would provide great comfort. ❤️
@unk-p, I'm so sorry for your loss. I think it's different for every individual who passes with regard to when and with whom they can make contact. I could tell my sister when her friend was in a coma that he'd pass, and got a number (turned out to be the day of his death). I had my former brother-in-law in my dreams within 3 days. My sister was in my dreams within 24 hours (to basically tell me she'd be out of touch until after both my parents had passed-she even showed me she wouldn't be there to meet them when they arrived, she'd just be looking on). My nephew was also a matter of days. Monica on the other hand made her presence known to me before I had even confirmed she was on the plane. I felt someone pat my knee in bed three times, and when I went to reach for my ex's hand believing it was him, I found both his hands in positions where he couldn't have been the one to pat my knee. That's when I understood she was gone and was looking in on me. It was within an hour of when she should have arrived in Paris, and this was her visiting instead of calling me to tell me she's landed. I believe that the messages and amount of time relate to what issues these folks have with those they visit, and what benefit will be derived from all parties involved. I'm sure if they could, everyone who passes would contact those who are grieving immediately.
You'll hear from your friend at the right time. You miss her. Even if she doesn't come to visit right away, she'll hear you talking to her, understand your grief, well wishes, and that you miss her. We're here for you, unk.
@cindy ❤️ thank you so much for this ^
it's still hard for me to put my thoughts to words. Today I went to the tr grocery store and before I could even decide what to get, a man started screaming. Like, really! screaming!. Screaming like that was all that was left to do. And I felt him. I wanted to join in. But this is texas, and people were starting to panic. So I went to the liquor store and got a bottle of tequila instead.
when I got home I put on the punk rock station but it played the 13th Floor Elevators song "you're gonna miss me when I'm gone" and with that, I could see Passion, having a good laugh
I am sorry for your loss. I struggle with grief myself. I don't think the pain goes away, but it eases with a decent support group and/or counseling.
I often fax my reps about the need for low cost or no cost counseling and it seems like California very narrowly passed a law to provide counseling for addicts, but I believe we all could benefit from socialized mental health during these shifts.
The USA has really dropped the ball on this, and the APA has also been slow to demand change.
I find it's really a no brainer.
So sorry to hear about your friend.
May her memory be a blessing. May you smile when you think of her.
So glad you didn't join in with the man at the store. It IS Texas so....
I would consider some self care. Reflexology? Anything gentle.