One again, I’ve seen a psychic and been told I’m an empath. This affects me in
many ways, many times, esp. with crazy, mean, trump. The energy is tough to deal
with and I’m glad I can escape to a room every night.
But I have a big issue these days. My therapist has been going through a breakup and
I’m feeling her stuff so much. She’s grieving but thinks she’s fine. She keeps seeing this person as well, as friends. I think she may be fooling herself. I mean, I feel
her pain and it is so tough for me to deal with my issues when I’m feeling hers!
She has said the best thing I can do for her is to be there as her client. But I keep wanting to give her space to talk. She does have a lot of good friends, but I can’t seem to shut off this need to be there for her. But I need help with my issues and I know I’m not helpful to her self esteem if I’m trying to be her therapist. Please help.
Thank you!
Anita
Well, yowza. This is complicated. My pragmatic self focuses on the fact that you are paying for a therapist’s help with your own issues, but you’re wrapped up in helping her. Frankly, I don’t see how this helps you deal with your own concerns. You should see another therapist and offer support to current therapist as a friend.
My empath self feels your conflict and emotional pain, but my pragmatic self is right. Your therapist should not be placing this burden on you, no matter how inadvertently. I’m wishing you the best as you navigate the world as an intuitive and an empath. You will sort this out and you will be okay.
Thanks. But after 2 years and a lot of established trust, I don’t think I can start all over with someone else. That’s over a thousand hours of issues and connection.
Anita
Beeing able to do her job properly will help her heal from her breakup . I don't think she thinks she is fine . She needs to keep her job separated from her personal issues . She needs a break from grief . And work provides that .
I think the best you can do is dive deep into the most difficult part of your therapy . It is time for family issues, abuse and relationships . Tell her about your pain . This will help her recover from hers . Not awkward, unwanted space and silence .
Sorry for my callousness . It is a difficult subject . I wish you luck .
Yes, she really needs to do her work. I have been thru trump, my sister voting for trump, my frustration with back pain, aging, religion, etc. of course I go over it over and over again. Maybe I need a big fat argument with my partner and worry about
death. Maybe I need to skip my anxiety and depression meds!
Anita