You got it @dannyboy lots of ❤️ and 🙏 coming his way and your way.
Sounds like they're doing all the right interventions.
Danny Boy, I will send light to you and to him.
I am certain you are a comfort to him. He can feel your love and care.
What an honor your love is to your own father as well as this special man, your second father.
Much Love,
Ghandigirl
@dannyboy I hope your dear friend is doing better and that his doctors have determined the problem. These people who come into our lives and become dear, dear friends are such blessings to us. I can tell this man has made an impact on your life. In these moments of uncertainty about his health, you probably aren’t thinking about the impact you have made on his life. Knowing you, I’m sure you are a blessing to him. These friendships are one of life’s great gifts and you are so lucky that you recognize that. He has made your life better and you have done the same for him. May your dear friend have peace, may he be comfortable. I am sending him healing. May you have peace, too, DannyBoy. You are also a gift to our community.
Everyone, thank you for the good vibes sent Phil's way. I heard from his wife again today that when she's not there he is sending her humorous text messages which I think is a great sign he's not willing to give up on anything just yet. He was prepped for a scope yesterday which is taking place today. They hope to find the cause of the GI bleeding and figure out his next steps. Continued prayers appreciated. I'm so grateful to all of you.
Today we had the hearing Re custody. I had been feeling incredibly positive and then it was like the twilight zone. My ex lied over and over on things he didn’t put in his affidavit on both big things and small things and my lawyer didn’t do anything. I just wanted our truth to be told and I was open to the highest outcome but I did not feel like our truth or our story came out today. Much of our story has to do with the generational trauma my ex suffered bc of his moms borderline personality disorder- something’s she’s been diagnosed with (shes in France) but his lawyer said it wasn’t true, she doesn’t have it. All the abuse we suffered stems from the trauma my ex experienced as a kid.
I feel like I let down my children, at the end of the day I chose my lawyer and I trusted her and she didn’t know the case or fight for us.
my spirit guide told me this was about using our voices. After a month of bad fights w their dad I found my 9 year olds journal where she had written about how scared and upset she was. I told her I found it and helped her process her feelings and fears and she said I should share w the people making the decision about overnights because she wanted them to know how scared she was and how badly she didn’t want them. But the judge reprimanded us for sharing a 9 yr olds journal. I thought i was helping her use her voice and the judge felt like a 9 year old wouldn’t want her private experiences shared, but mine did.
When I first started sharing about my abuse I had to overcome so much shame, but I found that I was believed, this time I felt like we were trying to speak up and lies buried our voices.
A Mahayana Bodhisattva trusts without doubt. I trust the universe is working to our best benefit and I am also inconsolable. I am aware of several past lives the girls and I have shared w him- they were all full of violence and aggression from him- in the past I hadn’t spoken up and now i have but it feels like it got me painted as a nutty ex wife who wants to put her daughters diary on the internet.
Oh Jaidy, I am so very sorry you had this experience. I can feel your heartache and pain.
I hope that ultimately the best thing will happen for your family. I will be keeping you in prayer. May light fill your path with love, hope, peace and calm. May your family stay and feel safe. May the path forward overflow with blessings.
@jaidy Jaidy, I’m sorry your day was so frustrating, horrifying and unfair. Now breathe. Center yourself and regroup. You’re not a nutty person, just a person in a terrible situation. I am praying for you and your children. Even though life can be unfair and unjust, you can get through this. Your children can get through this. I don’t know the answers here, but believe all things are still possible. May you be surrounded by your guides, by higher powers to protect you and your children. May truth and justice prevail for you. Breathe. Sending you love and protection, my friend.
@jaidy Dear Jaidy, I feel how helpless you feel right now and I just want to enfold you with love and protection. You are a good mother. I would have done the same thing you did in quoting the diary. It was the best way you could think of to show the court your daughter's situation. The failure was in the courts, and your lawyer, for going in there unprepared, not you.
When it feels like you are losing a battle, hang in there and know that there is more at work than you can know at the time. Do not back down. Have faith in yourself as a good mother doing all you can to protect your children.
We are all sending healing and love to you and your kids and tomorrow night in our Circle of Light we will hold you in our hearts. Perhaps you could practice loving kindness for yourself and your children to surround them (and you) with healing love. Know you are always invited to join us too on Wednesday's at 3 PT/6 ET.
thank you for your support Jeanne- I haven’t attended in the past only because that was during our dinner time. I have been feeling so supported by my higher self/guides. Last night I dreamt of an old strawberry embroidery ( although it was fading in some parts or maybe an outline w some red)behind which a packet of sunflower seeds spilled out. I imagined planting these sunflowers around the perimeter of my garden and driveway. Planting sunflower seeds is symbolic of a fresh start and new beginnings. I went into today believing ultimately things would be positive.
@jaidy Oh, such a beautiful dream! I too feel it's all going to work out.
@jaidy, I am very sorry you are going through this. Even though you were painfully and unfairly blindsided by the actions and decisions of others in that hearing, I firmly believe you are being divinely guided and are doing what is best for your children. What occurred yesterday is not the end of the story. Trust yourself and know that your decisions and actions have been grounded in truth. I pray that you find peace, hope and strength in the midst of your struggles, and that justice prevails.
Your sunflower dream was a powerful and positive gift from Spirit. So beautiful. Keep that dream close to your heart, @jaidy.
I am holding you and your children in love and prayer, and will remember you all in my meditation tonight. Please keep us updated on how you're doing.
I just want to say thank you so much for this community’s support. I vacillate between accepting and trusting and sadness and heartbreak. My daughter asked to have her journal entry shared with those who were making the decision about overnights and the judges reaction feels like she did not understand or misinterpreted our story. So much of life is being seen, validated and heard and with abuse you can feel so wobbly when you do share there’s so much vulnerability involved. the judge acted like I exploited my daughter when all we were doing was trying to protect her and share our truth.
Thank you for sending us strength, for your care- it’s humbling. The night this happened I had a dream where no one would help me. There are moments when I trust the universe, live in each moment and there are moments where I don’t understand how it will work out, where I blame myself.
My oldest daughter and I pray at night for the highest and truest and she said to me last night, mom I don’t think we should worry about overnights-‘God wouldn’t want us to have them, he wouldn’t do that to us.’ She has said this before and I asked my spirit guide if she knows something - but he said no, she just trusts life because you taught her optimism.
I've felt the sickening feeling of being in a courtroom when things suddenly go off the rails, you know the truth is being distorted, and you feel powerless to correct the false narrative. I'm so sorry, Jaidy. I am praying that your situation rights itself and works out for the best. Family court is the absolute worst. Love and light to you and your family. xoxo
You have probably already checked this out but just in case; see what the nearest domestic violence service is near you, it might be housed within another social service agency, and if you can't find it, see if there is a state level domestic violence office that can guide you. In my community, we have legal advocates that accompany clients to court, at no charge to the client. They can also help interface with your lawyer and even the judge. However, services vary wildly, state to state and town to town.
Perhaps you could ask your lawyer why she remained silent and then how she means to proceed. I am angry on your behalf.
Sending support.
@lynn I don’t know why, but knowing this has happened to someone else helps… thank you
I’m starting to feel like god has a plan and I am going to trust it even if I don’t understand it. I believe that I came here to learn and grow and this is one of those opportunities to accept and trust there is purpose for me and my girls to be experiencing it right now. I imagine there will be some dark days ahead thank you to this community for helping me feel less alone and for your guidance and insight.
I've never been a a litigant in family court, but I've represented women in family court, and many of my colleagues have as well. Know this: when men fight in family court, they are believed to an astounding degree, even when the evidence points in the opposite direction. It is very common. I've seen how the process can wreck the lives of the people who most need its help. Family court is often the place that survivors need to protect them, but it falls short.
For whatever it's worth, I've been in other arenas where I've had to sit silently while others mischaracterized me, because silence was my only option. I have to believe that the truth wins out in the end.
You're showing up for your kids, and that is so brave of you. I'm rooting for you and will keep you in my prayers.
Btw, if you don't understand what your attorney was doing (or not doing), that is their failing. They should explain it to you as many times as they need to until you understand. That is your right and their responsibility.